(Closed) Fiance is acting a bit odd?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 4
1962 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t think your overreacting by worrying about it. A drastic change in my FI’s behavior like that would concern me. Hopefully this surprise is just what has him so preoccupied right now and that when it’s done he will be back to his normal self. Is there any way that you can go to the gym with him or try to do any activities with him to get him up and moving? 

I know that when my Fiance was laid off and spent most of his time at home he kind of got into a little rut. He actually started sleeping regular hours (8-9 a night) and felt more and more tired everyday. I think a lack of stimulation when you are used to moving 24/7 can cause some major changes in behavior. 

Maybe you could plan some little things to do over the weekend like going for a hike or just walking around your town enjoying each other’s company. If all else fails get some nerf guns and challenge him to a duel.

Post # 5
858 posts
Busy bee

is it possible that he is depressed? I dont what to say, does he have any friends that can get him out the house? that might help

Post # 6
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Honestly, it probably is just a touch of boredom.  I get a little cranky when I have too much aimless time too, even if I am “working on something” at home.  It’s a bit of a catch 22 that you’re too bored to go do something about it…

That said, it COULD be something more serious.  Not to turn you into a total hypochondriac, but the last time my husband had a major shift like that (tired all the time, not really excited about anything, and irritable as all get out), his immune system had attacked his thyroid, and now he’s on medication for it, likely for the rest of his life.  Hormones are tricky little things 🙂

Hope it’s a quick turnaround for you guys!

Post # 10
1962 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hmm hopefully it is just the boredom. If you are worried about it being health related I would talk to your Fiance about possibly seeing a doctor. Do you have health insurance that provides a nurse line or anything that you can consult? Hopefully he’s close to the end of his surprise planning. Unfortunately I think knowing the surprise might shed some light on the matter, but then that would ruin it of course.

Post # 11
3801 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It might be that he is bored. Honestly, I”ve been not myself this past summer and I’ve noticed so many others around me feeling the same way. It’s been so hot this year, work seems endless and stupid, and if I were him, being home all day might make me crazy, too.

Plan something cute for you two to do this weekend and see how he is. Try to pick something you either love to do together or something new. See if he opens up then…maybe he is bored, or maybe he is just at a turning point with some things in life and is just thinking. Unfortunately, men sometimes forget the use of language when they are going through a rough patch.

Post # 13
464 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Maybe with him not being so active (mentaly, and pysically) he might be having sleep issues even if he cant remember, and is sleeping the usual time. I have that problem some times, basically you dont enter the right sleep phases so you arent as rested no matter how long you sleep.

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