Post # 1
He has NO OPINION on the wedding.
But I make a suggestion and he is the first to shoot it down.
So what, I’m supposed to plan this whole thing and just run ideas past him as I go?
I don’t think so!
Ugh, just a rant. lol
Post # 3
@jb20: You need input from him….do not make plans without his opinion. My fiance was like this at first but it was because he was so busy to even think about wedding plans. I sat him down to talk, but everything is ok now.
There was a girl on here who posted how her fiance shorted her on his half of the cash for the wedding, so an uninvolved fiance is a problem. You have to put up deposits together, ect. You also need to know how many of his people he wants there. At first, mine told me “my mom and dad” and that was it. However, I knew better. Wedding planning is a little nervous at first so people get cold feet about it.
Post # 4
This would be the part where you just stop asking…..he’ll figure it out.
Post # 5
My FI is like this too. The things that I couldn’t decide on, or sincerely wanted his input, I would give him three or four options. Multiple choice– he had to choose one. So far, it’s worked out pretty well.
Post # 6
@jb20: hahaha mine can be similar.yesterday we went to buy the little bags/boxes for favors. i picked some, he told me he didnt like them.so i asked him which ones he preferred…”i dont know baby, whatever you think”. picked others, again he said he didnt like them
i told him he can either have an opinion or not. if he doesnt like something, then he has to suggest an alternative!
Post # 7
I think most of our FI’s are like that, honestly. Weddings are such a huge deal to us women, but to guys they’d be fine with marrying us in a courthouse wedding. I think we can thank Disney for the whole “Princess for a day” thing.
For the first 4 months or so, FI had absolutely no say whatsoever. Then something clicked and he actually picked our color scheme and when I was designing our invites he had a lot of say in that.
Your FI may come around, and he may not! Just let him keep doing what he’s doing. If he wants to be involved in the details, but when it comes down to it all the guys want to do is see us walking down the aisle in a gorgeous dress and saying “I Do”. The rest, they could take or leave 🙂
Post # 8
Aww… Just be like, oh I decided on this or I decided on that. If he shoots it down, be like ok then YOU do it. Chances are he’ll get too overwhelmed and you’ll win 😉
Post # 9
I really hope my SO has no opinions once we start planning. I want a very simple, cheap wedding. He’ll want to spend thousands and thousands to show off. But, thankfully he knows I usually get my way 🙂
Post # 10
I think this is really normal. My FI really has no OPINION at all. They don’t spend hours and hours thinking of all the details and the good and bad things. They just know that they are going to marry their girl, and drink and eat and that is all. I would sit down with him and discuss how you are feeling. You may want to delegate responisbility to him, like planning the honeymoon or choosing the groomsmens clothing. Remember, no one is as excited as you are 🙂