- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
I have been blessed with a very active Fiance in our wedding planning – it really is at the heart of it – a great thing. But its starting to stress me out, and im feeling guilty about it.
First off he is determined to have our engagement party in his backyard – which would be fine, but im positive there is not enough room for the amount of people we have. We cant really afford to have it elsewhere and any other option i think up he shoots down.
Then we have meetings with alot of Djs/bands this weekend. He made a list – all the songs are slow! And not like, slow dance songs – like “slow jams”. Its not that I dont like the songs, cause I do, but I dont think they are appropriate for a “party” – especially one with older people.
Then he’s telling me we cant count on his side of the bridal party to buy/rent suits. I said we could pick a color that most people will already have a suit of, so the chances of them having to buy one is low- Im SO beyond the point of caring anymore, but he said even this probably wont work. I know people are in a fix these days with money – but someone cant save $200 in a YEAR to buy/rent a suit for their best friends wedding!? Thats RIDICULOUS. all my bridesmaids are getting dresses!!
Its a bunch of small things, but its building up and taking a toll on me. Mostly because he gets like fixed on what will happen and refuses to look at anything from another perspective.
I dont want to be a bridezilla but im so close to screaming THIS IS MY WEDDING! lol
….i honestly dont even care anymore. I have given up on the wedding. im not excited about it – im dreading it all. I just dont even fight anything he says, im like whatever. I feel like this is his wedding and im just along for the ride.
Its weird cause hes never like this! He definetly has his own opinion, which I love – but he usually listens to me and we can compromise on things easily.
What can I say to him that wont sound like Im being selfish? He is very sensitive and if I say something the wrong way it could turn into a huge thing…