Fiance lost his job today:( Can't get back into wedding planning

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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11712 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You definitely need to have a budget.  While he is looking for a job, I would either put a hold on wedding planning, or try to cut back, just to make sure that the wedding doesn’t take that much out of your savings.  You have a healthy emergency fund, so at least your day-to-day living won’t be dramatically impacted, but now is the time to focus on the necessary things, and not the nice extras like a big wedding!

Good luck to you, and to him in his job search!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@TexasTheta90:  First of all I am so sorry about his job!

 

 What I would be doing right now is stop the wedding planning for a moment, and do some math here.  Do you guys have enough money to live for a while?  That is a big savings, but you don’t want to be using half of it I’m sure!  Should you cut any non-essential expenses?  How soon do you think he could find a job?  Try to make a long term and short term plan based on your income, your expenses, the current savings.  THEN talk about the wedding and both come to a conclusion to see if you should move forward as planned, wait, or do something else.  But I say first work with your FI to see how daily life is going to be handled.

 

 

 

Post # 6
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11712 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@TexasTheta90:  We had the same situation — of about 185 invited, we ended up with around 130 guests, so the travel will definitely help you out there!  

He may be able to find a job quickly, so I wouldn’t give up everything you want so fast.  You never know how things will go in the job market, and you have a long time before the wedding, so you can decide later on the bigger things!  

Post # 9
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11712 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@TexasTheta90:  Going back for a MA in sports management, sports broadcasting, sports training (there’s a fancier name than that), could be beneficial for him.  He has the practical experience, but just needs to get that check-box for job applications.  Would his school sponsor his education in exchange for his helping out in their athletic department? 

As for the people asking about babies, I would just tell them to shove it.  It’s rude, and they have no right to pry into your reproductive choices!  Furniture can be bought with the 6 or 12 month financing (no interest if you pay it off in that time), or can be bought over time.  Right now, your focus is just getting him back on his feet and staying afloat!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@TexasTheta90:  can he look into coaching/being a pro/offering private training or clinics at the moment? that might be the sort of thing that can get him through until he finds another job.

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