Post # 1
- Wedding: April 2015 - Now Sapphire Resort
I want a destination wedding. The resorts I have fallen in love with all seem to be in Cancun Mexico, but my fiance married his ex-wife there. Is it ok for me to pick a resort there as long as it isn’t the same resort or is it just tacky?
Post # 3
What does your FI think of the idea? I personally wouldn’t want to get married in the same area where my FI was married once before if I were in your shoes. But that’s just me.
Post # 4
I think as long as he’s okay with it, it’s totally fine. However, if he’s really uncomfortable with the idea and doesn’t want to mix memories of a failed marriage with your marriage, then I think you need to look at a different location.
Have you looked a Puerto Vallarta? There are a lot of nice resorts just outside of the city in Nuevo Vallarta and it has some excellent food with a slightly less College/Spring Break Party vibe.
Post # 5
You CAN, but I wouldn’t. It just seems kind of weird, especially if people who attended his first wedding will be at the second. There are a lot of beautiful places for a DW.
Post # 6
I think it’s fine as long as he’s okay with it! You could look into the Tulum, Cozumel, Isla Mujeres, Riviera area though. It’d be the same general area as Cancun but a totally different feel… We are getting married at the Privilege Aluxes on Isla Mujeres about a 30 min. ferry ride from Cancun & it is gorgeous!
Did he have a legal wedding there the first time? If so did he go through divorce procedures in Mexico or the US? Mexico has two types of wedding ceremonies and the most popular for destination weddings is the spiritual/non-legal ceremony as it has zero requirements. Otherwise you’d have to do a legal civil ceremony which requires 3 days residency pre-ceremony, blood tests for you both, and quite a bit of paperwork. I thought with a civil legal ceremony if you were to divorce you’d have to do it in mexico as well but I could be wrong there….
Post # 8
@JAXBCHKAY: …I don’t see a problem with you getting married there…I think I would stay away from the resort that they got married at, but other than that, who cares? I mean, there’s got to be a line where that kind of stuff just isn’t a factor anymore….otherwise you can’t do anything!
My ex liked to sleep on egyptian cotton sheets….therefore NO EGYPTIAN COTTON SHEETS EVER!!!
My ex used to make tacos, therefore – NO TACOS FOR ANYONE!!!
I married my ex in Cacun, therefore WE WILL WED IN THE ARCTIC CIRCLE….
It’s just silly…that was then, this is now, you do what works for you!
Post # 9
I don’t think it’s tacky or that you can’t, but I personally wouldn’t. You want your own unique wedding and I think having it in the same place as a previous failed marriage will remind your FI and possibly his family of that first wedding. For me, it’s a no, but you have to do what you’re both comfortable with. There are tons of other great places for DWs though!
Post # 10
@Nona99: was about to say “wait, you don’t eat tacos?” that’s what i get for reading from the middle. lol
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2015 - Now Sapphire Resort
Thanks guys, I really appreciate the help and honesty! My fiance is fine with whatever I want, he just wants me to be happy. My knee jerk reaction is not to do it, but when I really think about it, it doesn’t seem like it should matter………I think I will still look elsewhere. It just seems like bad luck or something.
Post # 12
Sorry, but I think it’s weird, and probably anyone that knows him and especially was there will think it’s werid. My SIL got married to her ex-husband and her husband now in the same area AND around the same date. We all thought it was very strange, and everyone I talk to was like why have practically the same wedding again instead of do something different. Last thing I’d want during MY wedding is my soon to be husband thinking about how the last time he was there (if that was the last time) was when he was marrying his exwife. I mean, I know you can’t avoid everyday stuff because of her, but the wedding is special case imo, I’d want it new and fresh…
Post # 13
Ehrmm, yeah I say no to this one. We wanted a destination wedding, so that right there was miles away (literally and figuratively!) from his first marriage, however, we agreed we’d go somewhere neither of us has been before. We wanted it to be a totally new place/experience for both of us.
Post # 14
I’d avoid it – my guess is that people would talk about it a lot and it would become distracting/annoying.
Maybe see if any of the resorts you like are part of a chain, you can find one of their other locations?
Post # 15
@cbgg: This. I wouldn’t care about it at first, but I know it would drive me batty to have people talking to/asking me about the first wedding all of the time. Otherwise, I don’t believe in the superstition part. I mean I’m sure by this point a couple who was married in most marrying spots has divorced. Why should I let that ruin my fun?
Post # 16
- Wedding: June 2014 - Baby #2 due Sep 2017
Hmm, personally I wouldn’t want my FI and his family remembering about the previous marriage for my wedding, so I’d say no. Even if it’s a different resort, the way from the airport would be the same, the smell of the air etc etc.. I just wouldn’t There are so many places in the world!!