Fiance only wants Christian music for reception…but I want to DANCE. Help pls!

posted 3 years ago in Music
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m not a Christian, so I definitely see your side, but I will say, having grown up in the Bible Belt, there is a lot of upbeat/Pop/danceable Christian music. Maybe you could compromise and do mostly that and add in some of the stuff you’d like as well?

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would find music you love, and look up the religious affiliations of the people who produce said music.  I guarantee there are a bunch of Christians in there.  Then present it to your fiance as Christian music.  It may not be like “We love Jesus la la la” but since the people producing the music are Christian, it can’t be considered NOT Christian…right??

 

 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

there’s a lot of christian music that is good for dancing. my cousin’s reception played only christian music.

http://youtu.be/OJSsp9F9ZFo  pretty much anything by Salvador…

http://youtu.be/MmUDDxflt6o ‘move’ by mercyme

http://youtu.be/yvpH0-TYuLc ‘Stomp’ by Kirk Franklin 

http://youtu.be/6G0boTYx-yA ‘Tonight’ by Tobymac

http://youtu.be/scFnZAzRrFs ‘Me Without You’ by Tobymac (this one is my favorite)

 

Also, there are a lot of Christian DJs out there. They have Christian music AND clean secular music. And they would have a good mix (because it’s their job) for dancing and stuff.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@crayfish:  This.  In high school I was friends with a couple very conservative Christians and they had birthday parties and such with dancing, but it was still all Christian music.  There’s a whole variety.

On a side note there’s also “Christian Death Metal”… just think about that for a minute lol.  I get it’s called that because it’s super hard heavy fast music, but the lyrics are all Christian topics.  It’s the little things in life that amuse me, don’t mind me.

Good luck!

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@pudgybudgie:  Couldn’t you also argue that if you believe God made people, then God really made music?  So all music is Godly.  

 

I think you should make a list of songs you like, check them for language, and then convince your fiance that a wedding should be fun and joyous and not too serious!  Have fun.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@pudgybudgie:  “and I absolutely refuse to compromise with my equally stubborn fiance!”

I have a feeling that comment is in jest, but remember that marriage always involves compromise!

How about saying you’ll compromise and exclude anything which contains any words or insinuations that are objectionable? There are many songs by non-Christians (or Christian artists in the mainstream market) which have words which are in no way objectionable.

So draw up a songlist you like, and ask him to check the lyrics and ask if there are any objectionable.

As for why (aside from the fact that there is some great non-Christian music out there!), remind him of what I call the “Romans 14 principle”. Romans 14 says, in effect, be tolerant of Christians who differ with you on minor points. Many Christians – including you – are happy to dance to “clean” secular music with a clean conscience. If he tries to throw the same argument back at you (“Why aren’t you tolerant of the fact that I don’t like it”), remind him that there will be many Christians there who like to dance to “clean” songs, not just you.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@pudgybudgie:  it was both. they had the wedding and reception at their local christian youth group. 

And my cousin is a professional dance teacher… so being able to dance was very important to her.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

As a fellow Christian who loves to swing dance,  two step and some ridiculous Line dances,  just because music isn’t marketed as CCM doesn’t mean it is bad music. I would filter out anything with questionable lyrics yes, but there is a huge spectrum of music that is positive without being overtly Christian. I think this Is something that can and should totally be a compromise. 

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