(Closed) Fiance playing with a rattlesnake : (

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@whitefuzzy:  I think your justified in being upset and worried, but storming out is a little over the top. Its boys being boys, likely they have done this sort of thing before. 

Men arent always the brightest creatures, but poking at wild animals and being stupid runs par for the course when they get with their brothers.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I would be upset- I may be overly clingy, but I feel so strongly, deeply in love and otherwise a part of my SO, that anything that puts him in harms way would hurt me as well. I am a worry wort, but poisonous snakes are nothing to aggravate. If they just needed to relocate it and leave it be, that would be one thing. But I would be very upset with throwing on in harms way.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@whitefuzzy:  Sure, I’d be a bit grumpy, too. Just be happy it isn’t a coral snake… the US is currently enduring a coral snake antivenom shortage.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

You are justified, but your FI is a grown man and asking his parents to deal with the issue will do nothing. He can make his own choices as much as you may not agree with them. Talk to him about your concerns, that’s all you can do.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Boys will be boys…I can’t stand that statement! That is what the media (and others) used as an excuse for the Steubenville rapes and it’s a bunch of BS!!!

You need to tell your FH to grow up and to stop tormenting living creatures for entertainment! And what is he going to say when your future children do the same thing?! 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I totally get where you are coming from – I would be upset too – but storming off was a little bit of a childish overreaction. Unfortunately, some “grown men” can act like little boys, especially when they are in packs.

 

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Luayne:  It’s one thing for boys to be mischevious (See: this scenario.) It’s another when the phrase is poorly used for rapes and such. You can’t confuse the two. “Boys will be boys” is a mischevious term, and sometimes people will use it improperly. It’s like people using the word “literally” improperly.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

I would have done the exact same thing. Not cool on their behalf:(

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Hyperventilate:  We’ll have to agree to disagree then. These ‘men’ were poking this creature with sticks for what purpose? To me that is torturing it for ‘fun’ and I will never look on that lightly. Did you know that most sociopaths like to do things like that to animals? I do…my exH did stuff like that constantly to animals and then started doing it to our children!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@whitefuzzy:  Having watched some family friends deal with a rattlesnake bite in their family, that isn’t a funny game.  The guy we knew took… god, months to get to something resembling healthy again, nearly died at first. Couldn’t use his arm for nearly a year.

To be honest though, I can’t remember if he was bit by an adult snake or a baby.  Adults aren’t as… potent? as the babies are. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Hyperventilate:  This goes beyond games and walks straight into stupid.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

This is pretty careless behaviour. My fiance is a zoologist so he plays with silly things all the time. He has been on a black mamba-handling course.

I would be pissed at how childish he is being, but the thing is you can’t say much. Same as if someone wants to drive drunk or speed around like a wildcat. You can’t make them behave and see the fool in their ways :/

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@whitefuzzy:  Well….I would be annoyed and call him an idiot, but I definitely wouldn’t post on a forum about how upset I am over it. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@whitefuzzy:  The garbage collectors at your in-law’s are in for a big surprise…

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