Post # 1
It is a slim chance but it’s still there. I’m not entirely too thrilled to be told this after all the hoopla surrounded our wedding. i.e. making plans and modifying them. We also only gave ourselves only 6 mos. to plan a wedding!
So, do we continue with our wedding plans and ask the vendors to amend their contracts so that we won’t lose the entire deposit? Maybe if we can get half of it back or even use it for another date (or event)?
Btw, had I know this little tidbit, I would’ve kept to our plans of a small wedding! It was my understanding that he wouldn’t be deployed just yet.
Post # 3
His chain of command should be able to tell him whether he is deploying…I knew way in advance because all the work ups we had to do. What branch is he in? I know in the Marines maybe you can talk to the Family advocate officer and find out? Or have him tell his chain of command he needs to know. I think most vendors will work for you maybe they will just hold the deposits for your date change?
Post # 4
I’m pretty sure that if you tell them you have to change the date for a deployment, most vendors will accomodate you to switch to another date or refund your money. No one wants to be the vendor who looks like they don’t support the military!
Prayers to you and your FI that if he’s deployed, it’s short and safe!
Post # 5
If there’s anything that’s constant in the Army, it’s change. Even if you do know the deploy date, it’s subject to change, and then you could really be screwed. I would try to go ahead and amend your contracts. A lot of vendors will be flexible for someone who is in the military. Hopefully, your FI won’t be deployed and you’ll be able to be married as planned.
Post # 6
@clarakaboom: I’ve checked with the vendors they will hold our deposit for a later date but they all have said that we must book another date asap. He is in the navy reserves. I will ask the FI to check and see if he could get some idea of when.
@abbie017: Thank you!
@2PeasinaPod: I hope we get married as planned, too. I’d hate to have so much planning go to waste. And, all his family is in MD (I’m in MA; he is in CT), it would be a shame that they won’t be able to attend.
Post # 7
mnp– Good luck! I hope the vendors will work with you. And hope your Fiancee gets to stay so you can have your wedding but if not I wish you both the best in the deployment, I know this news must be heart wrenching.
Post # 8
Most vendor contracts (especially in military towns) contain a rider along the lines of cancellation due to “acts of God.” Our vendors also include military deployments in that statement. If yours don’t, explain the situation and ask them to add it.