Post # 1
This is just something I notice occassionally, but some people seem to get the titles backwards. Fiancé is male, and fiancée is female because it has an extra e. It’s just a French thing, but there is a difference. I admittedly giggle inside when ladies refer to their FH as their fiancée (unless your FH is a woman, in which case I say, “fair enough”) anyway, I just thought I’d mention it just in case some bees didn’t know.
Post # 3
Eh, I think the word has become so “americanized,” for lack of a better word, that most people just use one word for either gender. Myself, I hate how the word sounds, so I don’t care enough to make sure I’m using it correctly!
Post # 4
I’m so glad I’m not the only one who notices this!! I feel bad correcting people out right though, so thank you for this post!
Post # 5
As a French teacher I do notice this a lot and it makes me cringe a little, but I totally understand that most people don’t know (or care) about the difference. I probably wouldn’t either if I didn’t speak French.
Post # 6
It bothers me when people get it wrong. At least it’s a different language, but it really gets on my nerves when people mess up [they’re, there, & their], [two, to, & too], [than, then], [accept, except], and a new one I’ve never seen before: are & our. Seriously, how does one confuse a conjugation of the verb “to be” with a possessive pronoun???
Post # 7
I had to give my husband this little lesson when we first got engaged, haha.
Post # 8
I always felt like it was more common to refer to the female as fiance, because people assume that fiance is for both genders, rather than referring to the male as fiancee. Either way, the slightly anal part of me sometimes feels the need to correct people, but I’ve never said anything, because I wouldn’t want it to come off the wrong way.
Post # 9
It bothers me too!
But I do love when people accidentally write “finance” on these boards. I mean, there’s no autocorrect function, so they must be writing it like that.
Post # 10
I hate both versions of the word therefore I agree with I couldn’t care less if he or I spell it wrong 😛
Post # 11
It drives me nuts! Especially on wedding related websites, if someone works in the industry they should know the difference! I do not speak French, with the exception of the little I remember that was mandatory in elementary school.
Post # 12
@Keltaena: Unless they are posting from a Smartphone, then there is Auto Correct.
Post # 13
This is one of those things that really irritates me! It’s SO not a big deal, and I know it’s a stupid thing to cringe at, but I have to admit that it really grates on my nerves when I see “fiancee” in reference to a man.
Post # 14
HA! Yes, this drives me crazy everytime I see someone doing it on here. I never want to correct people because I know people will take it wrong but it’s so silly! I was raised bilingual and my partner is French so I get that it’s obvious to me but… I wish it was obvious to everyone 🙂
Post # 15
I actually had no idea so I have learned something tonight. Although weddingbee does a good job solving this problem – Fiance haha.
Post # 16
Don’t get me started on “orderves”!