Fiancé wants a private wedding with no guests, help.

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

If he is like this about the wedding you dont think he would be like this when you got married, right?  I mean, there would be holidays and he wouldnt want you to go or something?  That would be a big problem!  

My husband and I are different religions but its OK, I just do my thing and he does his and we accept each other. 

I am hoping that he accept your religion and you for who you are. Even if he doesnt feel like your family supports them, if they want to be there, they are accepting him into your life in a big way. If they chose not to be there, it would be different. 

Post # 4
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4760 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

woah, girl you need to stand up for your FI:

here is always a prayer at any meal, and talk about atheists being immoral or cold hearted people. So when I talk to him about these things, he takes them personally.

No crap he takes it personally!  If you let your parents talk about him or people like him like that then you are no better.  I’m not sure why you aren’t offended by your parents calling you a bad influence either.

I agree with you FI, I wouldn’t want your folks anywhere near me.  

I think it’s up to you to mend this, put your parents in their place adn tell them to respect your FI.  If they don’t then hell yes you need to choose FI or your parents, you can’t have both,

Post # 5
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441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@aynlexicon:  I would not have anyone at my wedding who thought me or my FI to be cold or immoral because of our beliefs.

It really would be as simple as that for me.

Post # 6
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2913 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I pushed my family away when I was with my first husband…not worth it! You will regret this in the end if you are close with your family. 

Both sides need to see reason…they need to be more accepting of the atheist lifestyle, or your FI needs to man up and try and get along with them. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - TTC #2

@Atalanta:  +1

I also have to side with your FI on this one. It’s be up to you to try to bring your parents round to respecting your FI soon, otherwise you might have to choose between them in the long run.

Post # 8
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4760 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@whoa_its_ash:  by “man up and get along with them”, you mean “let them insult him all they want and he’ll greet them with a smile on his face”?

I’m not sure what you mean.

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