Fiance wants lace dress

posted 2 weeks ago in Dress
Post # 16
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1333 posts
Bumble bee

I promise you your fiance doesn’t want you to wear a lace dress more than he wants to marry you.  This isn’t that big of a deal.  People get pictures in their head of what certain things should look like.  Doesn’t mean that when presented with an alternative he’s going to hate it.  If you think he looks good in blue and pictured him in a navy suit and it turns out he picked grey – are you going to hate what he’s wearing and be upset about it?  Do you honestly think he’s spent hours looking at wedding dresses and knows the difference between tulle and taffeta and organza and and chiffon and satin and silk, etc?  He just knows you like lace, so you probably wear it on occasion in front of him and thinks you look pretty in it.  He’ll also think you look pretty in tulle.  Your wedding day is going to be so busy and emotion-filled that he’s probably not even going to notice the specifics of the dress, he’s just going to notice you because he’s marrying you, not the dress.

Post # 17
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146 posts
Blushing bee

what about a lace topper something like this..

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Post # 18
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146 posts
Blushing bee

it would look great!

Post # 19
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521 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Put on a really ugly lace dress and send him a picture, then ask “is this really what you want or can I get something that actually looks beautiful on me?” 

Post # 20
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

You are going to look so stunning in your dress on your wedding day, that his jaw is going to drop. It won’t matter to him that you aren’t wearing any lace, because he’s going to be so overwhelmed by how beautiful you look.  However, it is incredibly sweet and loving that you want to add lace to your dress somehow to make him happy. 

Post # 21
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Honey bee

madilynnnne :  

Fiancé wants lace dress ” . Well let him wear one then,  bless ‘im! 

Seriously,  as pps have said , he won’t know /remember ,on the day , and saying he’ll  be disappointed  if it hasn’t got lace is   prob  guy-speak for being  surprised if it hasn’t  got lace

Lace  edged veil or shoes if you want to incorprate some , lace facric shoes is a great idea .

Post # 22
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1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I wouldn’t worry too much about it. Guys know literally nothing about wedding dresses. FI is 100% positive that I am wearing a big poofy ballgown because I wore a big poofy ballgown to our senior prom and that is the only fancy dress he has ever seen me in. I actually bought a mermaid gown because I loved it and idgaf what anyone thinks I ‘should’ wear lol. 

Post # 23
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Busy bee

Worst case: He doesn’t love your dress. Still, I doubt any guy is stupid enough to tell his bride that she looks anything other than radiant on their wedding day.

Fwiw I showed my husband the dress I wanted and he didn’t like it. I bought it anyway. The man would wear all orange (his favorite color) and walk down the street looking like a traffic cone if left to his own devices, so his opinion on my dress didn’t hold too much weight with me. We’re married just the same. Lol. 

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Tell him to get a lace suit.

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

This is why I said that, after the dress was purchased, FI couldn’t make any positive or negative comments about bridal clothing. No commenting at friends’ weddings, no commenting on television, nothing – because I was concerned I’d purchase something and then later he would make some off-hand comment about something he thought was ugly or wished I’d wear. I’d consider a removable bolero, but you could also just send him a selection of hideous lace menswear and ask which one he’d like to wear.

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