Post # 1
So here’s the deal. Fiance’ thinks that I should delete my Instagram account because he says that I am making myself “available” to other men. Grant it, my account is private and the only guys who follow me are family and close friends from college. He has a problem because he doesn’t know all of my mail friends from college. I told him that I would delete every guy he doesn’t know but he just kind of brushed me off saying “Do whatever makes you happy.” We all know what that means. What do you ladies think? Should I delete my account even though I really have it to stay in touch with out of state friends to see pics of babies, weddings, and etc.? Have your fiance’s ever told you anything about your social networking pages? I am so confused. I love him and want to respect him but I want him to trust that they are only friends. What’s a bee to do?
Post # 3
No, that sounds pretty contolling to me. i have instagram and made mine private so creepers cant follow me – my fiance has no problem with it.
DO you have facebook? What does he think about that.
His reasoning is really stupid, unfounded and controlling.
Post # 4
What!? No. Keep it. He should trust you & not be controlling of your social life.
Post # 5
Instagram? That’s strange that he feels that way. If you had a Match.com account that you were using to “keep in touch” I could see his being concerned, but Instagram isn’t a “meet men” kind of site. What’s next? Cancel your Pintrest? I’d tell him to Buzz off (ha. Bee joke)
Post # 6
My husband would be met with a stern look of disapproval, followed by an equally bland, “Really?”
Neither of us would ask the other to remove some form of social networking due to insecurities. I’d ask him why he thinks he should be worried.
If he says he “Trusts you but doesn’t trust other men”, then he has said he doesn’t trust you enough that you’d put other men in their place.
I wouldn’t make a big deal of it.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
Uh, I would keep it. It sounds like he’s trying to control your life, but then again I don’t know the whole situation.
Post # 8
@MrsWBS: +1 unless you are posting racy lingerie photos I don’t know why he would have an issue wih this.
Post # 9
@Charlies_Angel: Umm. Honestly, if my husband did that I would tell him that he is being irrational and that if he is serious we have issues that are WAY bigger than an Instagram account. Are you sure he is being serious? Maybe he is joking. That is just too bizarre to take seriously.
Post # 10
Yikes. I would never let a man tell me to delete one of my accounts. Keep it.
Post # 11
@MrsWBS: No Facebook or Twitter because he hates all social networking sites. We agreed to both get off Facebook because he had a problem with mine. I think he is being controlling even though he’s not the controlling type, he’s really laid back. Maybe because we actually reconnected on Facebook in 2010, that he feels some type of way about it. I don’t know.
Post # 12
I’m not really sure how to vote on this one. I’d say “maybe,” if it’s really that big a deal to him and will cause huge issues in your relationship. But if everything is out in the open and he can see that you’ve deleted all your exes, I’m not sure what his problem would be with it. Have you explained to him that you’re only using it to keep track of LD friends, their kids, etc?
Edit: DH and I both personally dislike “social networking” so we’re not on FB or anything like it, but we both agreed that it’s mutual hatred so we were happy to delete those accounts. But we deleted them for ourselves, not for each other, if that makes sense.
Post # 13
@MissNoodles: I agree. To me Instagram doesn’t scream “hook up.” I don’t see what the problem is with sharing photos of your life with others.
My DH wouldn’t even suggest such a thing because he trusts me. I sounds like your FI is having some control and trust issues that I would strongly suggest you discuss.
Post # 14
Ladies, that’s what I told him. Almost every picture I post is of the two of us. I don’t get it.
Post # 15
I dated a guy who basically had to give me approval for each and everyone of my guy friends on facebook… Once I gave into that he just got more and more controlling. Sounds like he’s insecure and that’s resulting in him being controlling.
Post # 16
I do not know anything about Instagram other then that the pictures make your skin glow or whatever…haha…
I do have facebook, but it has never been an issue for us. If somebody was to cause problems and make my husband feel uncomfortable, I would just delete that person as anybody that matters to me would be respectful of our relationship. But again, my only friends on facebook are close friends and family members. No exs and nobody that I don’t speak to on a regular basis. Everything is private, so you wouldn’t be able to see anything unless I was to add you as a friend.
What your FI is doing though…that sounds a little nuts. Does he have any social networking sites of his own?