(Closed) Fiance wants to buy a new TV…uh, we have other things we NEED!

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 3
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

tell him as soon as the other TV is paid off he can look into getting a TV. Do your research and look on websites for a great deal. Woot.com has tvs for sale at least once a week, 1080P 42″ flatscreen was just for sale this week for only $489. I think your Fiance should be able to spend his money as long as you are on budget for the wedding, but I do not think you should buy more tv’s when one is not paid off.

Post # 4
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Wow. If it were my FI/husband, I would tell him that additional electronics can only be bought once you have zero credit card debt. We only buy things we can pay for in full at the moment of purchase, period. Have to pay it off? Not getting it.

Post # 5
4123 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

On black friday, my husband saw a great deal on a 55″ LED Samsung… his drool over “let’s go to best buy and just drool” TV. Honestly, I didn’t see the need for it… we had a 46″ LCD HD TV… but, we had the money and I knew it would make him super happy. So I let him get “us” the TV. The only reason I said yes, is because we had the money and didn’t “need” it for something else. 

There is no reason to finance a TV… especially on your CC. If you are still paying off a TV there is no way in heck I would say yes and he needs a financial lesson in responsibility. Kids are not cheap… it’s time to learn how to manage those finances and make some sacrifices. And he should most def. be paying towards the baby stuff and wedding… that’s a joint venture. 

Post # 6
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

If it was me, I’d calmly explain the financial situation. It’s possible he isn’t aware exactly how bad things are, especially if you manage the money. Debt is NOT a good way to welcome a new family member into the world, OR start a marriage.

And if he doesn’t like that, well, he can shove it up his “man cave”!

Post # 7
690 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Tell him that he is going to be a husband and father and to stop being so selfish. And I would go over your wedding budget and explain to him which part he is responsible for paying for. And also the upcming expenses for a baby.

Post # 8
3526 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Do you guys have completely combined finances or do you keep money separate?

If it’s combined then I say heck yea he can’t buy that TV. Explain to him why! On the other hand I can understand him wanting to treat himself to something for a job well done. Maybe something smaller?

If it’s not combined then I say it’s his money to spend, as irresponsible as it is. But hey if you keep it separate it’s his money.

Post # 9
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@Gerbera: I’m with you here.

OP – based on how you worded things in the original post – it sounds like you and your Fiance have not completely combined your finances.  If that is the case – than no matter how irresponsible it may seem – you really don’t have a say in how he spends “his” money.

Post # 11
624 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Try craigslist free section, and if you know someone with a van or a truck you may be able to snag 1 of those early HDtv’s you know the enormous boxy kind.  It will be an upgrade from what you have now, but FREE!  You need to have a big discussing about budgeting and priorities, also now is a perfect time to set up a joint account and sit down with a financial adviser (it’s on our todo list this weekend, TD is open 7 days a week.)  Also I agree that he deserves a treat, you offer him a lollypop or a cookie.

Post # 12
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

My husband and I used to have this arguement over a new phone. He has a perfectly good phone that does everything he needs it to, but he HAS to have the upgrade. I think he didn’t get it for so long b/c he knew I’d be upset (it’s very weird for me to not want him to buy things, so he knew this one was a big deal), and then when I got pregnant he finally realized he was being dumb and we need to save money.

I feel for you!

Post # 13
3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

New kid trumps new TV. You guys need to go see a financial adviser as msgraphics suggested, set up that joint account, and get all your ducks in a row. Hopefully that will help him realize that a new TV can wait.

Post # 14
3526 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It seems to me like there are 3 popular ways couples deal with the money situation.


1) Combined EVERYTHING

2) One joint account for 50/50 bills paying but then separate spending accounts

3) Separate accounts but split bills 50/50.

So that is kind of what I was referring to bc I didn’t know where you guys fall.

Again, I am actually totally with you on this one. But I feel since your free non bill money IS separate it’s his money to spend as he wish.

Like the other ladies mentioned maybe now is the perfect time to set up that joint account.

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