Fiance wants to pay for the dress. Would you accept?

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
2103 posts
Buzzing bee

@Diamond30:  I think if you’re really head over heels for that Justin Alexander, then get that one! Would you really be disappointed if you love that “second choice” to the point where you’re over the moon with it?

Post the Justin Alexander! I want to see it! 

Post # 4
1812 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - TTC #2

$10K? Wow! But if it’s something that your FI can comfortably afford, and he clearly wants to make you happy, then accept. But if it isn’t so affordable then don’t risk starting off your marriage in debt which can lead to arguments later on.

Post # 5
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I probably wouldn’t buy a dress that would be out of my budget even if my fiance was willing to pay for it, because we have very similar incomes and also our money is functionally already combined, and shortly will be ACTUALLY officially combined. So if it’s way out of my budget, it’s also probably way out of his/our budget.

That said, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with your fiance paying for the dress. We’ve split our wedding expenses fairly equitably mostly according to whoever was most convenient to pay at the time. If for whatever reason he had been there with a credit card when I bought the dress, I would have seen no problem with him buying it. As it is, I bought my dress and his ring and paid for the venue, he’s arranging the cake and paid for my ring and the photographer and his suit). 

If you’ve found something else you love that’s cheaper, and you feel better about the price/don’t feel comfortable accepting it, go with that. But if not- don’t feel guilty accepting a gift from the person you’re about to marry!

Post # 6
523 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If he can afford it why not? If the price is a stretch I’d say no.

Post # 7
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

My fiance and I have a wedding account that we both contribute to.  I use it for all of our wedding expenses including my dress and his suit and both of our wedding bands.  So in a sense, he might be paying for part of my dress. 


That being said, only you two know your financial situation.  We are in the middle of buying a house AND paying for a wedding so a $10k dress would never, ever, be an option for us.  If it’s just a drop in the bucket for him, then let him buy it.  But I’d probably pass it up for a cheaper dress.

Post # 8
5773 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would let my fiancé pay for my dress in a more reasonable price range,  but I wouldn’t buy a $10k dress nor would I let him pay in that price range. Even if you’re making $200k a year, that’s an awful lot of money for a dress.

Post # 9
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@Diamond30:  If your FI can afford it, I say at least try it on.  You’ll either adore it and it’ll be the one or you’ll realize you love the other dress more.  The last thing you want is that nagging feeling that you never got to know if the VW dress was it. 

Post # 10
774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle

I think you should try on the VW before you make your mind up. You might not like it on you and then no need to agonise over the decision. 

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