Post # 1
My fiancee’ deployed to Kuwait right after we got engaged. Originally, we thought it would be a 9 month deployment, because this year army deployments were shortened from 1 year to 9 months. So, we have been planning our wedding for March 16, 2013 and put a deposit on the venue. Today, he informs me that the orginal wording, which is terminology I don’t understand, states 390 days. The email he forwarded me stated since the orders were for the 390 days, he would have stay the 390 days, April 3, 2013. It also states that his group will come home 39 days prior to the 390 days, which is February 24th. The final paragraph says,” if you had made life plans for your family based on being told it was redeploying Dec 12, 2012, please inform your chain of command and bring it to the attention of your Directorate head as your reason for early release. Please realize that they are not obigated to provide you this release.”
My fiancee’ told me earlier today, his evening, that he was going to talk to his boss and see what they could do. I haven’t heard anything back though.
I am pretty saddened and disheartened right now. I accept the fact he is in the military and know deployments can and do happen. However, this situation threw me for a loop. Luckily, the venue we chose will allow us one date change, in case that something were to happen that he doesn’t get to come home on the original date. Hopefully, this will count. I obviously will discuss it further with him tonight. But I’m not sure if I should go ahead and move the date into April. Can any other bees familiar with how the military operates advice me on what I should do?
Post # 3
I’m so sorry! It has to be so hard on you to deal with this. I would wait for your FI to see what the Chain of Command says before officially changing dates, but it may be smart to move it until April so you almost definitely know he will be home.
(I’m not military, so this is just my personal advice; other military bees may be able to give you better suggestions!)
Post # 4
So sorry you have to deal with this… Gotta love the military tho… this is not an uncommon thing, I tryed telling that to my friend who will be getting deployed soon, but they wont listen to me.
Post # 5
Sorry to hear about your fiance’s extended stay in Kuwait. My brother is in the army and also currently in Kuwait for 9 months, and anticipates coming home in March 2013. (He was deployed from Fort Benning last month.) I always hear about the army changing things as they go, unfortunately. In our case, my brother will be missing my wedding since I picked the October 2012 date before we learned he would be deployed.
Crossing my fingers for you for things to work out as easily as possible.
Post # 6
So sorry to hear – keeping my fingers crossed that he is granted early release!
Post # 7
Thanks so much for the support ladies, it really means a lot. He is going to submit the paperwork for early release. Hopefully he will get it approved, if not, I’ll change the date to April.
Post # 8
so sorry to hear this! i got engaged to my fiance right before he left for a deployment and we decided not to set a date until he got back in case this kind of thing happened. of course, the timing we would have liked would have totally ended up working but you never know with the military! March could still totally work for you but its definitely cutting it close. If his return date is going back and forth again and again, it might be safer for you to move the date to April to give you a little more cushion room and let you breathe a little! i know this is every future military wives’ worst nightmare! good luck!