Post # 1
This is the most ridiculous post ever, probably, and I feel completely silly for being so upset, but I need guidance Bees.
The weekend after next my cousin is getting married out of town and my entire extended family and every family friend my parents have had since the beginning of time will be there. This is the first time they will all meet my fiance and they have been talking about it for months. Well, he decided that he would get a hair cut today from a new place.. and it is terrible. They basically buzzed it. He has a gorgeous head of thick blonde hair and has always kept it medium length and styled. Very sophisticated.
It’s really bad. He’s still handsome of course, but his hair is terrible. He hates it and is miserable about it. I’m being positive because I don’t want to make him feel bad, but it’s bad. He doesn’t look like himself.
Does anyone have any styling suggestions?? How much will his hair grow in 2 weeks?? Please don’t tell me I’m being ridiculous because I already know!! Gel suggestions??
Post # 3
He probably doesn’t want you to take one, but can we get a picture? It’s hard to advise without seeing what we’re dealing with.
If it’s 1/4″ all over, you’re kind of SOL. If there’s a little more length on the top, there might be some options. The good news is that the look will definitely soften in a couple weeks. It’s probably going to take a few months to get back to what you’re used to, but he shouldn’t look totally scalped by the wedding.
Post # 4
in two weeks it should definitely be longer (about 1/4-1/2″) but its not going to be back to normal 🙁
Post # 5
i agree with PP’s- his hair won’t be grown back in 2 weeks. it might be slightly longer, but it won’t be normal. you may be able to have it “faded” after it grows a bit, so that it doesn’t look like a military buzz job. but it won’t return to normal for a while.
i speak from experience. my FI’s hair grows super fast compared to mine, but never more than like, 1/2″ in a month. he usually buzzes his whole head to like, less than 1/4″ long. and then a month later, does it again. he never likes his hair longer than that. he overheats.
Post # 6
I had to look up the meaning of SOL hahaha… yeah
Um, it’s probably 1/2 to 3/4 of an inch on the sides, maybe 1 inch on the top.
No luck on the pictures but… this is basically what we’re working with. As opposed to a Patrick Dempsey kind of hair situation.
Post # 7
I’m not sure how you can style buzzed hair. A few weeks of growth won’t restore his lovely locks but it will make it look less awkward.
Post # 8
Massage his scalp daily! Increased bloodflow makes hair grow faster!
Post # 9
I think the best you can hope for is that it will grow long enough on top for a little styling gel of some kind. I’m sure he’ll look fine! I know it’s a shock when the change is that dramatic but you might learn to like it…
Post # 10
Dempsey to Federline in 30 minutes. I posted Bradley Cooper because I was being nice, but it’s a Federline kind of situation.
Well, thanks guys. Is it terrible that I don’t want this to be their first impression of him? I feel so superficial, but I wouldn’t want to meet his extended family if I had just accidentally dyed my hair jet black, or got a bad spray tan! : (
@GoldfishPie: I remember that now that you suggest it and will try it. Does anyone have any spells I can chant while I massage his head? I will even light candles and offer a blood sacrifice if I have to! hahaha…
Post # 11
Aw. It is a change, but I’ll bet it’s not so bad to an outside observer. I was expecting something more like:
Do your head massages, and tell him how sexy he is, and maybe indulge in a little role play with your “new” boyfriend to try to get over it for now. I’m sure he’ll look fine for the wedding, and your family won’t care one way or the other.
Post # 12
I mean, there’s nothing you can do about it so you might as well just tell him it’s not that bad 😛
It actually won’t look as weird to your relatives as it does to you: part of why it looks so bad to you is your brain already has an idea of what he should look like. He could try taking biotin but in 2 weeks I think it would be mostly a placebo effect.
Post # 13
@MlleDarcy: I actually think that’s an extremely attractive cut. If it looks like that, he will still look stylish and modern, even if he doesn’t look like your FI to you.
I know a bit about how you feel about this, because this happened to my FI when we traveled to visit my parents shortly after we were engaged. They hosted a picnic for my extended family to meet him and his children. His normal hair stylist had moved away, and, prior to the trip he went to a salon in a shopping mall near where he lived, and they did a terrible job of cutting his hair. His did not look stylish like the pic you posted. Instead, they left the top longer and completely buzzed the sides. I hated it. However, it was what it was, and there was nothing we could do about it.
One idea for you would be to take a few really cute pictures of the two of you — even if they’re just on your phone, and find a reason to show them to those whom you really want to know what your FI normally looks like. 🙂
Post # 14
Who cares?? It will grow back eventually. No sense worrying about it you can’t do anything about it now.
Post # 15
@Brielle: It just doesn’t work for his face shape.
He knows this, and he’s shy anyways. I’m mostly worried about it affecting the way he interacts with people, which it will.
Thanks everyone for the advice and the reminder to not be so dramatic. It’s just hair after all. We’ll see what happens. He very well may not want to go, and I can’t force him.
Post # 16
Agree with Brielle: arm yourself with a ton of pics… you can even be posting them now (say on FaceBook if you do that sort of thing)… or just send friends & family a casual note… asap… (and not so close to the Wedding … in the week before… so your cousin will claim you are stealing her thunder)
Hi Aunt Jane & Uncle Bob,
So excited about getting to see you at Cousin Joan’s upcoming Wedding, and you finally getting to meet the love of my life Mr Darcy…
Here is a pic of him & I from the Company Picnic we attended together last month
That should do the trick…
On the otherhand, hair will grow out (thank goodness)
And guys hair tends to do so pretty quickly… so it certainly won’t be as bad as you perceive it to be now.
Hope this helps,