(Closed) Fiance’s dog won’t listen! : (long! sorry!)

posted 7 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

It’s the way you’re talking to him. Sharp commands usually work best. But the “come on puppy…here puppy” isn’t going to work with any dog. If you talk out a list of commands, the dog of course isn’t going to listen to you. Telling him to get in the back seat doesn’t translate to anything to him. A firm, “Fido, SIT!” will work much better. Try to emulate exactly what your Fiance is doing. Your body language will also translate to the dog as well. We need to get you some Caesar Milan!

Post # 4
4824 posts
Honey bee

I would probably go to dog training and you be the one to go with him.  It sounds like he could use more training anyway and if you go with him you would become more alpha.

Post # 6
2821 posts
Sugar bee

Did your fiance use treat training?  You might want to start with rewards and simple commands for listening to you.  I’m not exactly sure how to deal with this either but I know both of our dogs also ignore commands from other people as well (except if they have a treat and say it authoritatively).  Once in awhile one will only start accepting a command from only one of us but the other one of us just has to be consistent and make them realize that we’re not going to be a pushover.  So I guess be consistent and start with treats to help them get motivated to accept commands.

Post # 7
827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Maybe try bribery, with treats?  At least for a while… that’s how we trained our dog. 

Post # 8
2008 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I would suggest taking an obedience class withOUT your fiance.  Work with the dog one on one and earn his respect.  Also, don’t just interact with him when you NEED him to do something or he’s in a high energy state.  Do small training sessions at home.  Just you, the dog and some kibble.  Nice and quiet.  And like @2PeasinaPod said, the soft, asking voice isn’t going to get you far.  Be clear, concise and don’t repeat the command.  

ETA: Old dogs can TOTALLY learn new tricks and this dog is absolutely not too old to learn some more manners.

Post # 9
1480 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Could it also be that the dog views himself as above you in the pack’s pecking order? The dog clearly acknowledges your Fiance as the alpha, but maybe it thinks of itself as the beta, and you are somewhere beneath.

Here are a few articles I googled on how to establish your authority over the dog:




Post # 10
4123 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ya, sorry hun, but that dog def. thinks your below him πŸ™‚

You need to work with it. You need to be exercising him YOU need to be his leader… in all things at all times. 

Post # 11
322 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

The age of a dog has nothing to do with how he responds to you.  I have a 5.5 yr old ridgeback and a 3 yr old great dane.  My dogs can still learn new tricks and new boundaries at their age. 

I 3rd what 2PeasinaPod said.  It’s all in how you come across to the dog.  You need to work on being stern, and also having the confidence to know that you are the authority.  Don’t give up – it does take some adjusting for you and the dog, especially if you haven’t had a lot of experience in handling dogs.  Hang in there – you’ll get it πŸ™‚

Post # 12
1058 posts
Bumble bee

Start dog training with the pup for about 30 minutes a day if you can using good treats like chicken. TRUST me, after a couple of weeks of consistent training, that dog will be doing WHATEVER you want him to. πŸ™‚

Post # 13
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I feel like our dog listens to my husband more/better b/c of his deeper voice. And like a pp said, his voice is a lot sharper too.

Post # 14
2607 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I agree that obedience classes with YOU taking him would be a great idea.  NILIF would also be an excellent idea (http://k9deb.com/nilif.htm).  It sounds like you are not living together yet, but when you are at his house, you should be the one feeding him (and making him work for it; see NILIF link), etc.

Also, when giving a command, do you tell him “Sit” or do you tell him “Sit…sit…sit…sit…”?  A command should be given ONCE and only once.  If you tell him to sit and he doesn’t, make him sit, (don’t be aggressive about it, but calmly get him to sit).  Repeating a command over and over teaches him that the command is”Sit sit sit sit sit”.  The dog is in the way and won’t come when you call?  Go get him.  Your fiancée giving him the command after the dog has ignored you is teaching the dog that he doesn’t have to listen to you.

Again, obedience classes should be enrolled in ASAP.  Even if the dog already knows the command, it will help him learn to listen to you, and it’s a fun, bonding activity for the two of you.  Plus, if the dog is freaking out that bad just from your fiancée leaving him in the vehicle for a few minutes, it sounds like some training is in order anyway.

ETA: I have a high voice, too, (I hate it!  But that’s another thread!  lol!), but my dog listens to me because we’re bonded and he knows he can trust me.  There is hope for you and your dog as well, it will just take work!

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