Fiance's ex is trying to get info about me

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Grafton86:  it may be natuaral curiosity. I’m interested in how my last serious bf is doing, not in a “I still love him” way but in a “Huh, wonder how that guy is” However, his ex is a psycho. He had to switch email addresses. She got 3 different google phone numbers after he kept blocking her. this behavior could be normal or abnormal depending on how it progresses

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Probably just curiousity.  I google my exes when I am bored although I would rather jump off a bridge than get back with any of them.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

If someone tells me my college boyfriend gets engaged I will ask about her. Not because I want to be with him or have any feelings for him at all, but just because he is a great genuine guy and I really want him to be happy. I don’t think it’s really that creepy and she probably didn’t expect the girls to go running to you saying “omg she was totally GRILILNG me” sounds like the inbetweens might be the ones causing drama 🙂

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Grafton86: I agree with the PP who said it sounds like your mutual friends are the ones trying to stir up drama. I’m sure it’s just harmless curiousity on her part.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Grafton86:  “She asked whether or not my teeth were naturally straight or if I’d had braces.”

Well, that’s weird. My first instinct is that it’s just curiosity but her questions do seem to be oddly specific. I Facebook stalk my ex’s fiance sometimes just out of curiosity because I like to see he’s doing well and he and I are no longer in contact. I have absolutely no lingering feelings for him whatsoever and I never regretted breaking up with him, it’s just an occasional vague curiosity. I think it’s a little weird that she feels so open about asking mutual friends such oddly specific questions about you, but she’s probably just curious or competitive. It sounds like she may be insecure and comparing herself to you. I’d shrug it off and be glad you have more important things to focus on!

Post # 8
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Busy bee

ok, the braces thing is freaking weird lol

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

The braces thing is bizarre.  I wonder if the comment was based on something FI once said. For example, maybe the ex had extensive orthodontic care when she was young and when they were breaking up FI said, “Well at least I will save all that money on braces for the kids we’ll never have!” 

Otherwise it sounds like normal curiosity.  She’d probably be embarrassed to know it all got back to you. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

Really is this really an issue you have to ask about? Ok i’m sorry…but WHO CARES IF SHE ASKS ABOUT YOU???

I mean come one…he’s with you, it was over 10 years ago, he chose you to marry. Let her ask all the questions she wants, heck tell your friends to give her your number and have lunch with her and get some inside scoop about him you might not know. Let her know all the fabulousness about you and how much in love you are. 

Bottom line…who cares what she asks. His past is his past. They broke up for a reason. He’s marrying YOU. Move on.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I wouldn’t worry about it.  It seems normal to be curious and most of us would want to be precieved as tactful and aloof so we wouldn’t ask, but sounds like she doesn’t have the impulse control.  If she’s never tried to contact your FI I don’t think there is anything to worry about.

I’d feel uneasy too because she’s probably judging you and being at least a bit bitchy.  Sounds like she’s a bit of a silly woman.

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