Fiance's ex MIL wants a wedding invite

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Read the post first please!
    Invite her : (4 votes)
    8 %
    Don't invite her : (46 votes)
    92 %
  • Post # 2
    2992 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I would just let her know that space is limited and while you would like to invite a ton more people, you had to make cuts somewhere. One of those was work co-wokers except X who you knew personally before she became a co-worker.

    Post # 3
    5089 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    <br />I wouldn’t.  I agree with above post – just say that space is limited and you are not able to invite everyone.

    Post # 4
    7106 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Are you inviting other coworkers? If not, then that’s easy. If you are, then it may be harder not to invite her. Fwiw, I invited my ex MIL to my wedding. She was incredibly wonderful and supportive of me when her son and I divorced and she is still our daughter’s grandmother. She did not come because she lives across the country- but she was happy to be invited.

    Post # 5
    1997 posts
    Buzzing bee

    eeniebeans:  she said the only coworker she’s inviting was a friend before they worked together.


    OP: I agree that you just need to tell her that space is limited. You can’t make everyone happy.

    Post # 6
    985 posts
    Busy bee

    NOPE. no way. She wouldnt be getting an invite if it were me.

    Post # 7
    2597 posts
    Sugar bee

    Is it just me I think if you get along and see each other everyday I don’t see why it is so weird? She seems like she is very happy for you guys and supports your relationship.

    It is obviously up to you wether you feel comfortable or not.

    Post # 8
    1324 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    sway0060:  did you miss where OP said she feels weird inviting her? It doesnt seem like OP is comfortable inviting the ex-MIL.

    Post # 9
    2597 posts
    Sugar bee



    I must have but I also added it was up to her on her comfort level so no snippy response needed I didn’t say she must invite her.

    Post # 10
    6790 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    What does your fiance think?  Does HE want her there?

    Post # 12
    88 posts
    Worker bee

    ah, that’s just so weird!!! I really dislike people who ask for an invitation… so so SO RUDE!!!! Don’t invite her, its just wrong and you don’t have to explain yourself.  People who ask for wedding invitations are 99% of the time looking for free food/booze.  Don’t invite her and if she asks again, just say “Guest list has been finalized, sorry but we were not able to accomodate you.” Harsh, but its the truth.  If she really cares (which I doubt she does) she’ll understand.

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