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My fiancé and I visited his family yesterday and his Grandma, sister and his father's girlfriend wanted to see pictures of my dress. I showed them pictures from my first alteration appointment (below). They did not seem to like it. There was no "ooing and awing." More like "oh, that's nice." His sister made a comment about how long the train was and it didn't seem like a compliment. His Grandma said that one of her nieces recently bought a wedding dress with one strap and she didn't like it. She then proceeded to tell me that even if she didn't like my dress she would never tell me that. She is neither a critical nor a mean person, but I feel like that was her way of telling me she didn't like it. She is in her eighties and I expect that her idea of a nice dress would differ from mine. I just don’t get his sister’s or father’s girlfriend's reaction. I didn’t expect them to jump up and down, and I know it's not the world’s most beautiful wedding dress, but they made me feel like it is just not that nice. Granted it looks better in person, I don't understand their reaction. There was no enthusiasm at all, and two of them walked away within seconds of showing them.
In all honesty, what do you think of my dress? Keep in mind that this is pre-alterations and it has not been pressed or ironed. All the women in my family absolutely love it. My sister and I fell in love with it when I first tried it on. My feelings are a little hurt over this, and I’m afraid I picked a bad dress. I just pray my fiancé likes it.
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You look beautiful and the dress is gorgeous on you. Don't let them make you doubt your dress. Besides, they will probably feel different when you have the hair and all your bridal accessories on. And some people just aren't as excitable as others. Maybe they love it but they just don't gush over stuff as a rule.
Anyway, don't let it get you down. You are going to be a beautiful bride.
Stop right there! Do you love your dress??? IMO that's all that matters!! I showed my wedding dress to my cousin who said, "thats the one you chose? really? That's it?" Um...yeah, because when I put it on I loved it and I think its beautiful and I feel like a bride and blah blah blah, then I stopped and was like, ya know what, I LOVE MY DRESS and no ones going to talk me out if it! Don't let them get you down. Not everyone's going to love it and some people are bad about hiding it when they should.
Personally, I think that dress is gorgeous! I love the corset back, but my opinion really doesn't matter!
and I know it's not the world’s most beautiful wedding dress . . .
Doesn't sound like you are all that thrilled with the dress either. You need to be confident about your dress and not worry so much about there lack luster reaction. If you yourself are unhappy with it, then that's a whole nother post.
and I meant to add that I think it is a beautiful dress on you.
I do like my dress but their opinion is important. I kow all the matters (or should matter) is if I like it, but I can't help but feel a little dissapointed. If it was just one of them that didn't like it, I wouldn't care. It's that all 3 of them seemed like they didn't like it. I guess my fear now is that my fiance will have the same reaction. I highly doubt it, but I can't help but worry.
By saying that I know "It's not the most beautiful dress in the world" just meant that I know I don't look like a super model and it's not a several thousand dollar dress. However, I DO like, no LOVE my dress, but that doesn't change my hurt feelings.
you look incredible. i mean it. i'd love to look that good in MY dress! go with what you like!
sweetie you look beautiful and if you love it than thats what matters they're not going to wear it.. Its your dress! you dont want to look back and saying i wish i had the dress i really wanted..
I LOVE your dress! :o) It's beautiful!!!
I honestly think that it's beautiful--it's simple and clean, yet dramatic. I think it was a great, classic choice.
I think I know how you feel--I haven't shown anyone a pic of my dress because I'm afraid that they won't show enough excitement, and I'll be hurt! Don't underestimate the power of the actual wedding day--when you walk out with that dress on, people are going to be bowled over.
I think it looks great! I really like how they bustled it. Don't let them bother you- it's perfect!
I don't really think the train is THAT long, and it bustles like a dream! I think as long as you like it, that's all that matters. My husband's family pretty much had zero reaction when I showed them a picture of myself in the dress, too.
Please, love your dress. Don't let other people second guess you. I remember that I always used to get teased about how I dress (read:old fashioned) well, guess what, now Mad Men makes it all right to dress my way! I love your dress, you love your dress. That's all that matters 
Well first of all a father is bound to say "oh that's nice" he's a GUY. ANd sisters are always jealous. Don't let anyone change your mind. And there's no doubt, your fiance will LOVE it...he loves you and it's a beautiful dress. You look gorgeous. Be encouraged and just shake thier comments off...easier said than done I know.
No, I wouldn't be upset about it, but then again I have a "screw you" attitude when people disagree with me, so that could make a huge difference.
Perhaps it was not what they envisioned you to be wearing, but the key phrase there is that YOU would be wearing it, not them. As long as you love it and think your FI with love it, then try to let the other stuff slide off like water on a duck's back!
@BridetoBe101610: I know what you are saying. My mom wasn't all that thrilled with mine when I showed it to her and it really hurt my feelings. I love love LOVE my dress, but it still made me think "Maybe I should keep looking" when she was like "It's ok i guess..."
All that matters is that you love it. Your fiance is going to think you look amazing in it!
Aw don't let their comments influence your opinion. They probably just expected something different. For the record, I think its beautiful and looks amazing on you, and the train is so nice! Maybe they are used to something totally different?? What you chose is in style and beautiful, don't listen to them.
I think your dress is beautiful! I didn't show my in-laws my dress because I am afraid that they will tell FH how it looks (he wants to be surprised). Plus, it didn't really matter to me what they thought since they weren't paying for it.
I think that it is a beautiful dress and looks lovely on you. They may have expected another type of dress? Men don't tend to make a big fuss, or express much. That dress is simple and elegant, and when you have your hair done and your jewelry on-you will totally rock it!! Don't sweat it! You will look amazing on your wedding day!!
It looks beautiful on you! And you look beautiful in it! Don't worry about their comments.
The dress looks gorgeous on you! And if you love it that is all that matters.
The *only* thing i see is that you don't look happy in the photos. Could your FI's family be reading off that and thinking YOU don't like the dress?
A photo of you smiling in it (or them seeing you smiling in it on your wedding day) could make ALL the difference.
Your dress is beautiful! Don't worry about their reactions. As long as YOU love it, that's what matters! Your FI will love it too because you will be HIS beautiful bride!
I think that dress is Beautiful! It looks so nice on you too! There is something about weddings that makes people think it is okay to tell you their opinions even if they arent the nicest. Ignore them. If you are happy that is all that matters!
If you love your dress then don't second guess yourself! I think it is beautiful and suits you perfectly :-) I KNOW that many people will not like my red and black dress but I ADORE it and I know my FH will and thats what counts. I understand wanting to please people but remember it is your wedding and you should wear what makes you feel beautiful! And it doesn't matter if you spend $20 or $20,000 on your dress as long as it is what makes you happy!
That dress is beautiful and much more with you in it. People have their own expectations and ideas of what a dress should look like to them. I would not worry about your fiancee he will love it.
Your fiance's family is crazy. That dress looks GREAT on you!
You look fab and they are not the ones wearing it---it's hard to impress everyone when it comes to this stuff just do u.
I think it looks very romantic! I think people tend to love or hate pickups, so that may be a reaction as well. Don't worry, it will be lovely.
It's a beautiful dress, and you sound like you love it, which is what's important. :)
When it comes to FI's family, it might be that they have differing taste. That's okay. They're a different family, so it's unlikely they would really love the same things you love. That's okay too.
Or possibly, in case you haven't thought of this--in the photos, you are not smiling and your posture is quite passive. I guess that could be contributing to their lack of enthusiasm, as there's nothing like a bride with a delighted smile on her face and a posture that says "I LOVE this dress!!" (usually it's the hands on the hips that gives it away). They might have been responding more to the mood of the pictures (dress fittings aren't all that exciting) than the dress itself.
As for your FI, I'm sure as long as it's YOU walking up the aisle to meet him, he'll be 100% happy.
Regardless, it is a gorgeous dress and I hope you can feel 100% happy with it.
Honestly, you dont look thrilled in the picture, so I wonder if their reaction had more to do with that? Maybe they didnt know if you loved it...and everyone expects those super-ecstatic found THE DRESS moments to be captured by try-on pictures, but trying on dresses can be a stressful thing. I'm not trying to be critical of why you didnt look happy in the picture, but just suggesting that might explain the lukewarm reaction you got from your future in-laws.
And while I agree with the other posts that you look beautiful in your dress, dresses look sooo much better after alterations! So don't let this reaction bother you when I'm sure on the big day, your in-laws will think you are gorgeous.
Even if they were expecting a different style, maybe they were just surprised by your choice. My FMIL seemed a little disappointed when fi stopped her from dragging her dress out to be altered for me and was surprised by my choice of a simple sheath...but she seems to have come around - it wasnt that she disliked my dress, just wasnt the style she was expecting...
hopefully that helps you to stop worrying...maybe you could ask them to go accessories/veil shopping with you to ensure they love your look too~
Your dress is beautiful on you now - just think how stunning you will be when the dress is properly fitted, you've got your hair and makeup done and all your accesories! You're going to look like a princess!
I think it is stunning. You are going to look amazing. Their opinion doesnt matter, it is how you feel in it.
I think you look wonderful in it. It is a beautiful dress and really suits you. I wouldn't worry about wihat his family think. I don't expect my mother in law to like my dress as she never seem s to like anything i wear even though i dress like an average almost 30 yr old. The grandma is probably and understandably a little shocked as in her day wedding dresses were more vintage and had sleeves etc. I wouldn't worry at all about her comments. The sister and fathers girlfriend may have issues of their own such as being envious of you getting married, or finding such a lovely dress etc. At the end of the day all that matters is that you love it. Your husband to be will love it regardless cos as the lady in the wedding dress shop pointed out to me, he hasn't seen all the other options you tried on. All he will know is that this is the dress you fell in love with so nothing else looked that great. I think you look stunning in it. It shows off your lovely figure and the dress has great shape and look without being OTT or making it appear that you are trying too hard. I would ignore everyone else. You will look amazing on your wedding day xx
I, like @Pwitty: wonder if their reactions were in response to your lackluster facial expression in the picture. Don't get me wrong - ALL of us have awkward face in dress photos, because you don't stop and twirl and smile to take a picture of every dress you try on!
But if they were taking their cues from you, and you were already nervous about their reaction and then showed them pictures where you look doggone tired and sick of trying dresses on... maybe they just didn't sense YOUR excitement about the dress and so didn't muster any of their own? A lot of people tend to (subconsciously) take emotional cues from and mirror the emotional reactions of the person with whom they're talking, so if you lacked excitement, even in the photo, it might easily explain their lack of excitement.
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