Post # 1
Hello Fellow Bees,
My wonderful bridesmaids threw me the most wonderful surprise bachelorette party and a super nice bridal shower. But nothing has been planned for my fiance. I just want him to have the same awesome experience that I am having. He is a surgery resident and works on average 80-90hr/week and has not been able to maintain all of his good guy friends. Plus he has lived in three different states and two other countries, so his friends are kind of scattered. He is the most amazing guy and deserves to have a bachelor party. Should I plan one for him? I am having trouble planning something with his groomsmen since they also work rediculous hours or live very far away. What do you think about a guys deep sea fishing day with my brothers, my uncles, and my step dad, and 1-2 of his groomsman two days before the wedding? Or something like that. Or should I just skip it since it may make him sad that more of his friends are not there?
Have any of you planned your fiance’s bachelor party?
Thanks so much for your help!
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
@stinebean: I think that sounds nice. When he picked his groomsmen, he probably knew this would be an issue. I doubt he’ll be upset that more people can’t come, as long as they will be at the wedding
Post # 4
@stinebean: I know how you feel because I am in a bit of the same situation. My fiance doesnt have very many friends. His best man is his brother who is becoming a christian brother (probably not the best person to plan his bachelor party plus he lives 13 hours away). I know my fiance is low key and says he doesnt mind but he was upset that no one is doing anything for him. SOOOO…i asked my brother to do it. They are just going to go to a Cubs game (with some of the other groomsmen and some of my male family members). BTW – I am the one coordinating the ticket buying lol
Post # 5
My DH had the same issue when we got married. I talked to him about it, and was going to try to work something out, but honestly, I cared more than he did. Everyone was just so busy and lived so far away, they couldn’t make a weekend work out. He ended up having all of his groomsmen spend the night in our suite the night before the wedding, and he was perfectly happy with that.
Post # 6
I think you should bring it up to your brothers or stepdad and see if they can come up with something for him…so it will be ‘their idea’ instead of yours…I know that if my FI did something like that for me, and I found out, I would be grateful, but I would also be a little embarrassed that nobody wanted to do anything for me on their own…
But he knows his friends, so it’s possible that he’s not expecting anything, so he won’t be too disappointed if it never comes together. Maybe you can throw him a private party…if you know what I mean….haha!
Post # 7
FI just told me they cancelled the hotel for his bachelor party – I think I was way more bummed than he was (I planned an awesome spa day for myself while he was going to be gone!, but mostly I just really wanted him to have a fun party because he deserves it). I told him I’d take him to the strip club for his “bachelor party” but he declined and told me he didn’t want to go to a strip club! I’m hoping when everyone’s in town the night before the wedding, he’ll be able to spend some time with his guy friends for a modified party.
Post # 8
@stinebean: I would ask your FI what he wants before planning anything. If he would like to have a bachelor type party, I would get his brothers (if he has any) or some of his friends who are invited to the wedding to get involved in planning an improptu bachelor party for him (since he is so busy!). I am sure he would enjoy it and like PP said he is probably aware that some of his friends can’t make it. 🙂
Post # 9
@JFay: Hehe Private party. I can do that as well.
Post # 10
Thanks so much everyone! I think I can help plan it but then step back and let one of his friends or my brother take credit. That way he doesn’t feel embarrassed that I had to plan it.
It is also probably true that I care more than he does. Thanks so much! You guys are the best.