Post # 1
Hi There! I’m trying to put together my shower list, and it’ gotten totally out of control. My fiance has 12 aunts and uncles and 31 first cousins! Hopw many of the women on his side am i required to invite? Some of them i barely know, but I feel like if I invite 1, I have to invite all of them
I know I need to invite moms, stepmoms, sisters and grandmothers, its the aunts and cousins that are really making things difficult. If I invite them all i have 55 people onmy shower list! I only have 5 bridesmaids, I can’t make them pay for that?
Post # 3
@shannybananny: Ouch, that is a lot for your bridesmaids to pay for.
I would invite the female cousins that your Fiance says “ok” to but do not invite male cousins’ girlfriends.
I suggest doing a Buffet thing, just so the bill doesn’t get out of control. Any way your parents could chip in?
Post # 4
My fiance has a large family as well. I honestly would prefer to only have the relatives I’m closest to at my shower. As far as how to swing it financially, would it be possible to do a potluck so no one’s spending a ton on food?
Post # 5
Shower planning is funny. On one hand, it’s usually only close friends and family who get invited (or I think should get invited), but some families do the all or none thing too. I personally think you should make a list of the ones closest on your side, and ask his Mom about the ones she’d like invited on the other. It may be a smaller list than you think, as she may not want them all there.
Post # 6
I think every woman invited to the wedding should come to the shower. I’m always a little upset with FI’s family doesn’t include me in showers…