Post # 1
Small rant ahead.
My wonderful FI’s inability to commit to a decision is driving me insane. Our wedding is 5 months away (which he views as TONS of time), and he:
Has not chosen or even thought of groomsmen
Has not chosen or thought of a master of ceremonies (will impact groomsmen choice)
Will not give suggestions for a wedding song (but is quick to express his hatred for the ones I pick. We like different types of music).
He is in charge of 2 aspects of our wedding. DJ/Band and the open bar. He has done NOTHING for either one. I am beginning to get nervous about the music.
I love my FI more than anything. His laid back attitude is one of the things I love about him. But the type A planner in me sure wishes he would make a decision and run with it so that I could rest easy.
Do I have the only FI in the world who couldnt care less about wedding planning? Its like he thinks it magically plans itself. I wanted to elope, he wanted a big wedding, and I am the one stuck planning it.
Rant over. Thanks for listening.
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@Honey-Bee: If you’re getting married in 2014 I understand his procrastination but your post says 5 months. If that’s true EEEEEEEEEEEEK!!!!!!!! You can’t wait to decide on a DJ/Band with that amount of time left!!!!
Take that task back from him, put him in the dog house for it and maybe he’ll get the idea about the rest.
Also about the whole elope vs. big wedding, I would kill him for that and his lack of planning.
Post # 4
@mchitt329: yes I just never changed it from waiting. 5 months. Yikes indeed.
Post # 5
yikes, that’s rough. Maybe speak to the dj together so he can see that time frames in these situations. you can’t just book a dj the week before, especally during wedding season.
I would have reminded him of his desire for a big wedding every step of the way. that is too much pressure for something you didn’t want in the first place
Post # 6
I am excited about the big wedding now too. And I am a control freak. But we are both SO stubborn that there is no way I am giving on this. Maybe it helps that i have a backup 😉 one of our wedding guest’s husband is a part time DJ. If we get in a real pinch I know I could talk him in to it. I just hope it doesnt come to that.
Post # 7
Mine is the same. We have 4.5 months now and he thinks that’s loads of time and that I am stressing for nothing. He also has no strong opinion about anything at the wedding, so asking him what he thinks is a bit useless. He thinks the wedding is for the bride and all he really cares about is that we are married by the end of the day, which is quite sweet in it’s own way. I had to nag him a bit to get him to book suit rental for himself and his groomsmen. It’s finally done.
On the upside, because I planned everything, I am getting to have my “vision” of the event. So every cloud has a silver lining. Just make it clear that if he doesn’t chose by X date they you will do it for him and he will have to put up with your choice.
Post # 8
Mine’s the same. We ARE a year out at the moment BUT we live in a very in demand/highly populated/expensive part of the country AND 75% of our guests will have to make travel arrangments (flying or driving 14+ hours). I want to make sure people know to Save the Date by October (maybe that’s early but it’s a HUGE pet peeve of mine to get a STD less than 6 months before a semi destination wedding – especially if I haven’t been told I’m invited previously). I’ve finally convinced him that the venue decision needs to be made ASAP and he’s coming around. I’m very type A, he’s very not. I’ll do most of the planning, I just keep prodding him along to make the decisions he needs to make.
Post # 9
@gingernutjo: ugh its the worst. I dont want to HAVE to take it over. I just want him to do it!!! We are both so stubborn lol