Post # 1
Traditionally, the parents of the bride pay for the wedding…but in my case, that is not going to happen. However, my husband-to-be has some AMAZING parents that have given us $1500 towards the wedding. Lucky for me, my grandma bought my dress…my wedding is going to be super simple and fun…what I am struggling with is accepting the money. Their daughter is getting married too and they’ve given her the exact same budget…should I say give the money to her?
Post # 3
No. Times have changed- ALOT! These days I bet most couples pay for the whole thing themselves!
They offerred because they want to help you guys! Accept the gift, I think it would hurt their feelings more if you told them you didnt want it. Do not feel guilty.
Post # 4
Absolutely accept the gift, and be thankful that you are joining such a wonderful and generous family!
Post # 5
I’d probably accept it, they wouldn’t have offered it if they didn’t want you to have it. Their son is getting married and they want to help!
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
Just say thank you and take the money! He is their child too and it is nice that they want to contribute
Post # 7
No you shouldn’t give it to her. If it helps, think of it as a gift to their son, your FI, instead, because after all, it’s his wedding too.
I don’t know anyone who goes by the “bride’s parents pay for the wedding” rule anymore.
Post # 8
Accept the gift and thank them and be happy 🙂
Post # 9
Just take the money…you might make them feel bad if you decline it. We are having both my parents and his parents contributing to our wedding. His parents are contributing more than mine because they are financially able to do so.
Post # 10
Accept the gift! My FH’s parents also contributed more than mine to our wedding (so far).
Post # 11
Wow what wonderful FIL’s you have!! I’d take it , sounds like they are giving both the same amount.
Post # 12
I might offer her the money IF you and your FI were in a significantly better financial situation than she and her FI are. Otherwise, just be grateful for their gift.
Post # 13
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
Take the money and be grateful that they have accepted you into the family as their daughter.
Post # 14
Girl, there is nothing to feel bad about. Take the money and run! lol. And be sure to thank them both privately, and publicly at the wedding. I will be paying for the vast majority of our wedding by myself, and I would be honored to receive that kind of gift!
Post # 15
Times have changed! Say thank you and use the gift – it’s a lovely gesture from them!
Post # 16
@pinwheelbride: No, I would accept the gift.
They might be like my parents. What I get, my brother will get (minus the cost of my wedding dress and the bridal shower) because according to my mom, she treats both of her children and one shouldn’t get more than the other. My brother is VERY lucky. He’ll either have a REALLY REALLY REALLY nice wedding or have a nice chunk of a down payment for a house.