(Closed) Fiancé's Parents have given us. Wedding budget

posted 5 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

No.  Times have changed- ALOT!  These days I bet most couples pay for the whole thing themselves!

They offerred because they want to help you guys! Accept the gift, I think it would hurt their feelings more if you told them you didnt want it. Do not feel guilty.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Absolutely accept the gift, and be thankful that you are joining such a wonderful and generous family!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’d probably accept it, they wouldn’t have offered it if they didn’t want you to have it. Their son is getting married and they want to help!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

Just say thank you and take the money! He is their child too and it is nice that they want to contribute

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

No you shouldn’t give it to her. If it helps, think of it as a gift to their son, your FI, instead, because after all, it’s his wedding too.

I don’t know anyone who goes by the “bride’s parents pay for the wedding” rule anymore.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Accept the gift and thank them and be happy 🙂 

 

 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Just take the money…you might make them feel bad if you decline it. We are having both my parents and his parents contributing to our wedding. His parents are contributing more than mine because they are financially able to do so.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Accept the gift!  My FH’s parents also contributed more than mine to our wedding (so far). 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Wow what wonderful FIL’s you have!! I’d take it , sounds like they are giving both the same amount. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I might offer her the money IF you and your FI were in a significantly better financial situation than she and her FI are. Otherwise, just be grateful for their gift.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

Take the money and be grateful that they have accepted you into the family as their daughter.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Girl, there is nothing to feel bad about. Take the money and run! lol. And be sure to thank them both privately, and publicly at the wedding. I will be paying for the vast majority of our wedding by myself, and I would be honored to receive that kind of gift!

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Times have changed! Say thank you and use the gift – it’s a lovely gesture from them!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@pinwheelbride:  No, I would accept the gift.

They might be like my parents. What I get, my brother will get (minus the cost of my wedding dress and the bridal shower) because according to my mom, she treats both of her children and one shouldn’t get more than the other. My brother is VERY lucky. He’ll either have a REALLY REALLY REALLY nice wedding or have a nice chunk of a down payment for a house. 

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