(Closed) Fiance's Sister-in-law

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Wow this is a first…. It was ten years ago, they should get over it. I am with you.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I say book the DJ.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Screw her. I’d book the DJ. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

That’s insane! Unless they want to pay for your DJ they have no say in who you book. They need to get over it, it was 10+ years ago! I’d tell your FI you are booking him since he will fit your budget and work with you on things. They need to grow up.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

how did they find out your DJ is a past bf?

If it’s 10 years ago, I say they should let it go.  It’s not like your SIL is miserable right now anyways…

that being said…if your FI’s family insist on switching DJ…

I will either have your SIL help you find a DJ that cost the same/less…seems like you still have more than a year to go,

or they foot the bill for extra cost for the DJ if they have special request on DJ.

 

Honestly, DJ sits at his booth the whole night anyways…he shouldn’t be walking around talking to guests…

 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Is he guessing it’ll be a problem or does he know it’ll be a problem?  Ask the FI to call his sister-in-law NOW and ask her if she has a significant issue with it.  Maybe she doesn’t and it’s a moot point.

You never know how the relationship ended – violence, cheating, etc.  You don’t want to bring that into your wedding (if he goes nutty) nor I hope, do you want to greatly upset the SIL.  I find it hard to believe only one DJ is in your price range.  So, if SIL would be greatly upset…it sucks, but yes start looking again.  I found several options in my price range (well below $1800).

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Alright, then they can pay half the cost of another DJ.  If they’re not up for that, which I suspect they won’t be, go ahead and book this guy. 

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You certainley should be able to use him! If she is uncomfortable she doesn’t have to come! Not sure how she would be 10 yeras and a husband later!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You are def not being a bridezilla! It’s ridiculous, they need to get over it!

Get another DJ, but ask them to fork over the money to cover hiring a pricier DJ  (j/k) = P

 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

Was it a significant relationship? 

Because i can see how it would be uncomfortble, but we all need to be adults and move on. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would tell your Fiance that he needs to come up with the $1800, or better yet have his brother and his wife pay for the DJ since they are the ones making it a big deal.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@blue_eyed_bride:  This.

I understand if it was like last week she broke up with him, but 10 years. Really? AND happily married. Aren’t we all adults here?

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