- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
My FI and I had a fight last night which resulted in him sleeping on the couch and we haven’t really spoken other than him calling me to ask how my Doctor’s appointment was.
Anyways what happened was we were at my in laws, and he had a few drinks and I didn’t. We got home and were in a good mood. He saw a text from one of our friends and then decided to be rude and write out a nasty text to them because they haven’t been the greatest friends as of recently. I knew he was drunk and that this would end up in a huge fight I didn’t want to deal with so I paniced and tried to take his phone from him. After I did this he did a 180, yelled at me that he was tired of my shit and stormed off to the bedroom swearing and just plain ANGRY.
I was confused to be honest so I followed him and asked whats going on? He proceeded to freak out some more saying stupid things to me that didn’t make sense. I spoke calmly and just explained my side of the story and mentioned that he was overreacting since he had a couple drinks and that pushed him further. He told me to shut up and other stuff so I just said fine, I guess I’ll sleep on the couch. Great…..
Anyways he gets up from the bed and storms off to the couch announcing that no HE will sleep on the couch I said fine and went to bed, closed the door and tried to fall asleep.
He comes back to the bedroom and decides he has a few last words for me.
1. Don’t ever grab his phone from him again blah blah, if I have an issue with what he is saying to talk to him about it (as if, this would have resulted in the same fight)
2.) if I ever call him a drunk again I can get the F out.
*I ended up appoligizing for trying to take his phone from him btw*
and at this point I just laughed and told him to go away I never said any such thing and I was done with this arguement. After me telling him I’m not 17 anymore and don’t care to engage in this fighting anymore he finally got the hint and slammed the door and stormed off.
You see we have been together for close to 7 years now and we’ve had our share of dumb fights like this. This isn’t the first time this has happened but since we have gotten engaged our relationship just seemed to have matured and we actually grew up which is why I was so sure of our future. I figured yeah we were teenagers when we did that stuff so I don’t really hold much weight in it and we both grew and matured….but after this fight it got me thinking…
I don’t even care if he stays or goes…I’m not sad or even emotional at this point it just doesn’t hit me the way it used to and it kind of has me confused. I was up at night thinking about whether to just end this relationship or not but never once was I upset or sad, just nervous that I might be making a mistake either way…its weird because I used to be clingly and insecure and would worry about this but now….nothing
Is it because we have done this so much that I’m used the messed up relationship we have and figure things will go back to normal after these fights (which scares me because that means this type of thing is normal to me) or does it just mean I don’t really care about this relationship anymore? maybe both?
Anyone dealt with this before? its weird because everyone here is super upset about breaking up with their SO or fighting with them but for me I don’t really care.