(Closed) Fight with DH… Argh!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1844 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  Yes…I am self conscious about my weight. Fiance knows that I’m not happy with this. He has made suggestions to help me get this under control. They haven’t been mean suggestions. I will just get angry at times, because it’s something that I have to own. I’m the one that has to make the decision to exercise, eat better, etc. We’ve gotten into arguments because I will tell him that I want him to support me, but then I get angry when he makes suggestions at times. After a few times of riding this ride, I finally said that it was something I needed to own. If he wanted to help, he can ask me, “What can I do to help?”. In turn, I’m going to try to be honest with him. Also, I’m going to try to control my venting to him. Since he’s tried to help me and I have shot down his suggestions, I can’t constantly come down on myself to him. I can’t have it both ways.

  I don’t know if something like this will work for you, but so far, it’s been helpful for us.

Post # 4
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Just gently tell him that you were not asking for advice, just a listening ear.  And that it hurts your feelings when you comment on such a sensitive topic for you.

Post # 6
53 posts
Worker bee

I had acne too. It’s genetics. Not pop. Water helps but get medical help.

I once used a prescription to clear it up when I was younger & i am now a faithful proactive user to keep clear!

I’d probably point out something he doesn’t need to be doing but that’s just me. ; )

Good luck!! 

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