- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Just needed to get a vent out there… FI and FMIL have never had a great relationship, far before I came into the picture, even when he was a kid. Honestly, she’s just kind of mean to him and shows pretty obvious favoritism of his brothers. We were on a family vacation with them this week and she just lost it on the day we were supposed to leave, cornered FI, told him what a horrible and mean person he was , that he and I were mean and antisocial all week (we went to every event that all the family went to, her justification for this is that we were reading on the beach… so was the rest of the family on the beach) and she decided to throw into FI face that she wasn’t paying for anything having to do with the wedding because he was so mean. My parents were already paying for the vast majority of this, but they were supposed to pay for the RD along with a few things (transportation, church) on the day of. She kept telling me whenever I asked that she was working on planning the RD, but she hadn’t done anything, we’re getting married on a holiday weekend in a popular spot, and now not only are FI are paying for everything they said they would pay for, but a lot of the places are already booked. On top of all of this fight, when we left, I still hugged her and told her it was nice to see her and hugged FFIL and thanked him for having us on vacation. When we got home, we had a text from her saying how rude we were for not thanking her. WTH do I have to thank her for? Being insane??
I’m a bit unsure how I’m supposed to act around her when I see her now- it makes my blood boil that she’s so mean to FI and that she decided to add me into this vendetta she has against him. Also, what kind of parent holds stuff like this over their child’s head? If they didn’t want to help with the wedding, that’s fine, but don’t now say you won’t do it because “FI is a horrible person.” Ugh, sorry, end vent. Anyone else dealing with crazy FMILs?