Fight with in Laws less than 48 hrs before the wedding

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Sunnyinct:  Obviously no one can really help here, but here are some baby pandas cuddling 🙂

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I don’t think they are starting drama, there clearly is no communication. You made plans for the fitting, they responded the day before and you didn’t answer because you were asleep

, you then made plans for the mani/pedi and she called the day of. Tbh you are the one that didn’t reply to your fb message (you should have checked messages since this was the way you decided to contact her) and you didn’t call Friday to check up if mani/pedi day was still on and then you decided to make different plans without first confirming your first plans were cancelled. I’m not trying to take sides but I think both sides need to work on better communication skills if you plan on getting along with them. Hope everything works out! 

 

 

 

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MrsPocahontas:  +1 completely agree.

TBH OP, i think you are partially to blame in this saga. Both you and FSIL need to work on your communications skills…both of you.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Eh, I wouldn’t call it a fight. Just communication issues. It happens, no big deal. If I were you though, next time I would make sure to set up time to hang out with your SIL well in advance knowing how she likes to arrange things the last minute. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

yeah i kind of hate the ‘i didn’t hear anything’ argument. she invited you to do a mani pedi and dinner on a specified date, you agreed….so that’s a plan. i don’t understand why people think others should reconfirm with them – the plan is made. and if you weren’t sure, you could have sent a quick text ‘hey want to make sure we’re still on for mani/pedis’ – entire problem averted. 

 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I agree with the others that you are as much to blame as your FSIL in this.  Especially with the mani/pedi thing…you HAD plans, and you were every bit as capable of saying, “Hey, what time works for you to meet up?” as she is.  

My in-laws also tend to do things last minute, and with me coming from a family of planners, (or maybe even OVER-planners in my mom’s case!  LOL!), it’s taken some getting used to.  It sounds like your in-laws are the same way.  If it bothers you, you can try pinning things to a more specific date/time, but you’ll have to do the legwork.

I WOULD be offended about the seafood thing, if your FMIL is aware of your allergy, (and I’m sure she is).  That’s just wrong!

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