- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
lI got into an argument with FSIL and FMIL last night and it really has my mind spinning.
Well, not a fight they just tried to start drama.
over the course of 9 months ,while planning this wedding, they have been no help what so ever. I am an orphan so I am pretty much on my own.
I invited FSIL to be in the wedding party thinking it might help us become friends. I’ve invited her to countless things and she has never returned my phone calls or anything. Example, right after my first fitting I emailed her to let her know when my final fitting was ( my dress fit perfectly, just needed to add in the bustle and the fitting was a month later) and l Did this through Facebook. I saw that she saw the message and never responded. a day before my fitting she asked what time and where was the place. By the time she responded, I was already asleep and never checked my Facebook . Well, the next day FMIL is calling me constantly while I am at work ( I am teacher so I can’t answer my cell during the day whlie I have kids) . My FI waited until lunch and called my classroom and asked ” why haven’t you been calling FSIL back she is trying to go to the fitting? And you never got back to her and my mom keeps calling you!” I explained and he understood but they caused drama.
Fast forward to last night. I decided I didn’t want a bachelorette party because my maids took too long to plan it and all live out of state. Two weeks ago at my final fitting she said well, lets go for a mani/pedi the Friday before the wedding and get a bite to eat. I said sure just let me know. I’ve seen her countless of times (dropping stuff off for MIL) and it was never mentioned. I saw her Thursday and nothing was mentioned.
So Friday morning my work friends ( they are also people who I hang out with on the weekends) asked if I wanted to do happy hour to celebrate. I said sure , since it was never mentioned again. So at 5:45 pm I get a text from SIL asking what I was up to and if I wanted to get manis and pedis. Then two minutes later I get the same text from my other FSIL. I didn’t notice, I couldn’t hear my phone ring. I responded 30 minutes later telling them I was with coworkers. I get a text from my mother in law saying “I hope you have fun…wish you had called FSIL earlier she has been sitting for hours waiting to hear from you.” . I almost flipped out. It seems as if my life revolves around them, and I had to stop and make the effort to do something. Also it felt like the two of them were ganging up on me trying to make me feel guilty. My SiL has made plans with me before and has decided to go visit her boyfriend and do other things. She isn’t dependable.
I told my FI what happened and he called his mother saying it isn’t about his sister and that she never spoken to me further about the pedicures and that she should have put forth more effort to plan something concrete. His mother hung up the phone on him.
I was already irritated at his mother for trying to plan our rehearsal dinner at a seafood restaurant ( I am deathly allergic to fish and have gone into anaphylactic shock and I can’t have anyone touch me or kiss me if they have eaten it and two other people in my family have the same allergy) then she changed it and order fish as appetizers and a main course dish at another restaurant . FI had to tell her to change it again or we wouldn’t be attending.
My mother in law and i get along well, we have gone shopping together and even we out together on Wednesday night. however, everything revolves around them. I feel so alone, and I love that my FI is sticking up for me, but I miss my mom and my other family members won’t get her until tomorrow.
I just needed to get it off my chest in a safe place. My IPad acts strangely on the bee and I am sorry for spelling/ grammar mistakes.