Fight with SO.:( He's mad at me because I am scared to drive down.

posted 3 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@katiecat08:  More than upset, I think he is hurt. He wants to see you too!

Can you take a bus or a train or something?

Post # 5
8678 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

You can’t get better if you don’t ever try.

He’s hurt. You’re not willing to put your own fears aside to see him. Being scared is one thing, trying to get out of it is another.

I can relate, though. My husband (then boyfriend) asked me to fly halfway across the country to see him. I had never flown alone before, I have a fear of flying, and I had never been more than an hour or two away from my family at any given time during my life.

I sucked it up, realized I wanted to see him more than I was scared and flew 1,200 miles to see him.

Best decision I ever made.

You can’t spend your life with your parents doing things for you because you’re scared. If you don’t want to drive, get a bus or train ticket. Don’t ask your parents to drive you — Daddy won’t be around to do the scary things forever.

Post # 6
4440 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Hyperventilate:  +1 


I’m not sure how old you are but from your post you sound a bit immature.  

if I was your SO I would be pretty upset too ! 

Post # 7
871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@katiecat08:  My FI and I live 8 hours apart right now and he would visit every other weekend and eventually I saw how exhausted he was so I had to get over it and drive up and see him even though driving that far alone freaked me out too. I found an audiobooked help keep me calm and happy and I just turned the volume down when I needed to focus. 

Post # 8
1343 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

can you take a bus or amtrak?


Post # 9
3198 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@katiecat08:  I’m not sure why other bees are pressuring you to do this.  If you’re a new driver than this may be really unsafe for you.  Plus he wants to see you but he won’t spend $160 to do so although I’m sure it’s going to cost you more than that just to rent the car, put in gas, and not to mention your own fear and the damage it will do to your parents.  I think your SO is being selfish.  He should figure out a way to come pick you up half way take a bus up to you and drive back down with you. 

Post # 12
76 posts
Worker bee

If you don’t mind me asking, how old are you & how long have you been driving? 


Post # 13
4440 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@katiecat08:  so now you’re not driving at all, getting your dad actively involved in your LDR , you still have to take a bus, and making your SO drive when you haven’T to pick you up. 


Doesnt sound like a win win to me. But if it works for you ….this just sounds very immature to me.


Post # 14
319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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Post # 16
34 posts
  • Wedding: November 2014
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