Post # 1
Ugh..my BF and I just got into a fight. Not about the engagement.
IT was about showering!
He wanted to shower in the gym and I wasn’t thinking we would shower til after dinner. So I said “hm” because I am an organized person. I wasn’t mentally prepared to shower until AFTER dinner because I didn’t want to mess up my hair. He stopped the car and started getting really agitated and he said “WHY DID YOU SAY THAT? “HM?” Why are YOU ACTING LIKE THIS?” He got really boisterous. He’s been having these agitated bursts lately. Last night he got upset when all I talked to him about last semester and how I still had a semester of school to go. I just said “And you couldn’t have proposed because I would still have had a semester!” And he said “No. that wasn’t the only reason”. Miscommunication for sure there. I thought it was the only reason. And then he got all pissy and rude.
I told him during our fight like 30 mins ago that I didn’t want to fight for the rest of our lives like this. I told him he has been acting rude lately. He asked me to come closer and I just couldn’t. He hasn’t been himself lately. He has been getting almost BITCHY lately.
Post # 3
@southernbelle381: It sounds like you guys have some communication issues, and also like he might have some underlying concerns/worries/issues that he’s not sharing, if he’s getting so explosively angry at such tiny misunderstandings.
Post # 5
He might have something going on at work that’s getting him on edge, or just going through a rough patch, but the comment about proposing makes me think maybe he’s feeling pressured or stressed about getting engaged, I would try try talk to him about it. Though honestly, I don’t get the shower thing. Why couldnt he shower at the gym and you shower at home after dinner?
Post # 6
@southernbelle381: how old are you? How long have you been together?
Post # 7
talk to him and see if you can work through his stressors with him. men don’t tend to bring up these things as they like to think and show you that they can handle things. something must be going on, talk to him.
Post # 8
@KoiKove: that has absolutely nothing to do with anything.
Post # 8
littleG: This. Something is bugging him. Hopefully if you sit down to talk about it, he will open up to you.