(Closed) Fighting?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
793 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am engaged now, and me and Fiance have gotten into fights before we were engaged, but seriously if he was the one in the wrong, then hack no I didn’t apologize to him, unless my reaction to what he did was way out of hand. If I was the one in the wrong I would apologize first. Everyone is different, and I’m not saying that your bf never apologizes to you or doesn’t admit he is in the wrong, but I couldn’t marry someone who always thought they were right.

Post # 4
2588 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Don’t apologize for things that aren’t your fault just because you think it’ll hinder a proposal–it’s unhealthy.

Post # 6
1237 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

My boyfriend and I very seldom have fights, but if we did, I surely wouldn’t apologize or “make him feel like a king” just so he would propose sooner. We love each other and I enjoy every second we are together, even if there’s no ring on my finger yet.

Post # 7
793 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Statutory Grape- That’s what I orginally though the OP was doing.

Young.love- I’m glad what I thought was not the case. I have certainly said I am tired of fighting to my fiance, and then we make up, but I don’t think I really worried to much about whether or not it postponed his proposal. There will be fights when we are married too, and I would want him to decide before we are married if our fights are to much for him, because down the road that would be a bad thing if he couldn’t.

Post # 9
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Yes, I absolutely have that fear! That if we’re fighting he’ll think “do I really want to marry her?”.  The ironic thing is that I think the rare times that we do fight, it might stem unconsciously from my feeling insecure about waiting in the first place….

Post # 10
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

it’s normal for people to fight. but if you’re fights aren’t making you want to marry him any less, there’s no reason to think it’s having that effect on him either.

Post # 11
313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t know if I have ever thought this.  My SO and I always end up feeling closer after we fight, and we realize the importance of fighting in our relationship.  

It’s not like after you get engaged/married you’re magically going to stop fighting.  I think that never fighting is just as unhealthy for a relationship as fighting all the time is, so I wouldn’t worry about it, as long as you’re fighting fairly.

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