fighting as a form of foreplay?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

When I get angry I shut down completely. I think I am the least sexy thing on the planet when I get angry, so no, FI is not aroused by it.

I can see being excited by someone who is getting very passionate about something.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I think this is borderline scary. I can imagine play-fighting as being a form of foreplay, but legit anger is not okay. It sounds like he doesn’t take the arguments seriously, which doesn’t resolve anything.

ETA: I understand the whole make up sex thing, but that’s usually after something is resolved.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@katherin788:  My SO likes when I stand up for myself or get issues resolved.  I’m talking like billing issues or what not.  I’m usually very bubbly and have a high pitched voice but I turn very stern when trying to handle business because I get taken more seriously.  He likes to see that side of me, however I don’t think it does anything for him in a sexual way. Ha!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

My FI does not get aroused when I am mad but I must say sometimes “make-up” sex after a fight is the best sex lol

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@katherin788:  Okay then, that’s a different story. Just making sure it isn’t something to be worried about. 🙂

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Actually yes. My SO will get turned on when I get angry over stupid silly things. I think ts because he likes when I assert myself and show dominance. So if that’s me lightly yelling at him about the dishwasher not being emptied, I don’t think it’s unhealthy or scary. just silly lol. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church

@katherin788:  I wish this would happen! When we fight, we just fight lol.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Pretty sure NOTHING about me being angry arouses my husband whatsoever

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

One of the things that I love about my DH is that he can laugh at me when I am mad about something stupid.  I’m a type A personality and can get very emotional when things don’t go the way I expect them to.  I don’t think that turns him on, but he is able to laugh about it, which in turn makes me laugh and get over my pissiness much quicker.

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