Post # 1
My bridesmaids are fighting.. I think! From what i can gather, the great divide is taking place. Maybe against my better judgment I asked my sister to be in my wedding. She is my only sister and her heart is in the right place, but sometimes drama surrounds her. Most of the time she creates it herself. From what I know there has been drama around my shower, now I think there is drama around my stagette… its sad really. My shower was this weekend and there was definite tension when I walked into the hosts house. Like none of them got out of their seats to give me a hug. Really.. I don’t live in the same town, never see them.. and they all just sat their staring at me. I had to go around and give them all hugs and say hello… it was really weird and not like them. My point here is if they are fighting – suck it up! My sister is difficult, I know this and they know this.. put it in perspective girls and look past it! I’m not sure of the entire story, but if it the tension doesn’t end soon, I’ll start to feel like maybe it was a mistake to have all of them involved. Its sad I feel this way!.. because they are my best friends.
Post # 3
It’s so frustrating when bridesmaids can’t get along. There is always drama when it comes to weddings, mainly b/c it is a mesh of a ton of personalities that don’t necessarily agree on things. So whenever I’m a bridesmaid, I usually defer to the maid of honor. When she’s not doing her job, I do my best to help pick up the slack so that the bride has a good day. I know it’s hard to swallow pride and get along, but it’s only for a short period of time, and you may never see those people ever again after that…so why create tension and issues.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Maybe you could have a little mini intervention and let them know that their attitudes at the shower were a little off-putting, and you appreciate everything they’re doing for you…even if it can be frustrating to work with your sister. Sometimes a thank you goes a long way.
Post # 4
I agree with the PP. My Maid/Matron of Honor and one of my bridesmaids used to be friends and had a falling out at one point a year or two ago. They pretty much loathe each other now. I know it must be difficult for them to be coordinating everything and having to have so much interaction but the bottom line is, it’s all for you and that’s what they should be concerned about.
It’s only a short period of time they are forced to be civil and they must love you if they agreed to be part of your big day. Try sending them an email and tell them that they shower was nicely done and you apprceiate all their hard work. Tell them you know it’s never easy being in a wedding (let’s be honest, no one LOVES being in weddings, they really are stressful) but you love them for being great friends and a great wedding party.
Post # 5
I thank them all so much that day and sent them all an email out first thing Monday morning! I appreaciate them all so much.. just wish they could get along..