Fighting the Unhealthy Cultural Push for Wedding Weight Loss

posted 2 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 2
1055 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Loft

a_day_at_the_fair:  Personally, my weight has fluctuated a bit in my life usually between 100-115 lbs. I am currently closer to the lower end of that scale. I am not athletic at all, my weight is purely determined by the amount of stress I have. That being said. I would prefer to be closer to 115 for my wedding day. I hate how my upper body looks when I am on the small side, and since my dress is strapless I am hoping for a weight gain miracle.

Post # 3
810 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think in general this pressure for brides to look the most beautiful they will ever look in their life on their wedding day is the root of the issue here. That’s a big part of the reason why (IMO) so many brides spend massive amounts of money on tanning, facials, eyelash extensions, hair and makeup, weight loss/ gain, etc. for the big day.

It’s kind of silly really. Ask any man how his wife looks most beautiful and te answer will almost always be when she is makeup-free and in her PJs.

I don’t struggle with my weight, but I am very insecure about my acne, my very pale skin, etc. (we all have our lists) I obviously want to look beautiful, but I try and remind myself that I want to look like myself on my wedding day.

To my fiance I am the most beautiful woman in the world, and this is what I look like dammit! haha

Post # 4
7207 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Never understood why women put such pressure on themselves. its one thing if you are doing it for a life change that happens to coniside with a wedding. But to just get thinner for wedding is too much pressure on an already stressful day.

Post # 5
1812 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - TTC #2

Honestly, if you lose weight for your wedding then put it all back on after, people will notice when they’re looking at your wedding photos a month or two later. Just be your beautiful self, ladies!

Post # 6
1201 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

Even though I am almost exactly the same size now at ( *gasp* ) almost 27 as I was in my final year of high school (up until my first, one and only ‘extreme’ diet) people often ask whether I will lose weight for my wedding. Often in the same breath as their heartfelt congratulations >.> while I have been smaller I have also been significantly bigger, honestly I’m mostly just grateful that I have not done what usually happens and endes up 5-10 Kgs heavier than when I started, a very common longterm outcome ofan ininitially successful ‘extreme’ diet. Sure, I look ‘better’ with a bmi of 19 than 26. But I refuse to beat myself up about it. Fighting nature rarely works long term. I have instead tried to focus on my health. A healthy glow is attractive at any size and it’s hopefully something I can achieve. I do wish people were more tactful about this sort of thing though.

Post # 7
23 posts
  • Wedding: November 2015

I was considering trying to los weight before my wedding (which is next year so plenty of time) but I figured, you know what? I have always been a big girl and I always will be and the man I am marrying LOVES that about me actually. So why should I bother? I am who I am. If they get me from the right angle I look beautiful in photos and I am sure there will be plenty of beautiful photos of me and my soon-to-be hubby. It’s just all about having confidence in yourself. =)

Oh and here’s a pic of me at my best friend’s wedding from last year (Yes that is the wonderful man I am marrying as well!)

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