Post # 1
First off a huge UGH! Ok so a little background…. My Mother is a little crazy or should I say way crazy. My entire family knows this. She has not spoken to me for 8 months over an extremely stupid reason. When I got engaged in May of this year her response when I attempted to tell her was “I don’t care and I don’t want to be apart of your life or anything happening in it” well her loss right. As much as I say that though it still hurts ALOT! So now to my cousin she was engaged December 2009. She is getting married in Oct of this year. We used to be so close until she met her fiance he is a real douche. She’s gained probably 75+ pounds while dating him and lost all her friends and has turned into nothing but a snob. I sent her an email asking for her address so I could send have her bridal shower invite sent and save the date. She sent me one back saying don’t bother because she won’t be attending. Now I get on facebook and see she is going wedding shopping with my Mother. Seems really dumb but hurts my feelings because she knows how my Mom is and knows what’s going on. Also come to find out I’m not invited to her wedding. I just want to tell her to stick her fat snobby self up her own butt. Ugh I know immature but jeeze what a bitch. Just to add a little something when we used to be friends I was the “fat” friend. From June-December last year I lost 60 lbs. that’s when she decided not to speak to me anymore.
Post # 3
I say write the email and get it out of your system, but wait a few days before sending it and see if you really want to. I’m sorry they’re being so mean.
Post # 4
Your beef is with your Mom, not your cousin, but family drama like this is seldom solved with emails (nasty or otherwise). I’d try talking to her in person, just honestly tell her how it hurts you to see her involved in someone else’s wedding and not yours. Offer a compromise on whatever it was that split the 2 of you up (even if it was 100% her fault) and see if she softens a little.
Oh, and if you just want to vent, write your “email” and post it here rather than sending it. 🙂
Post # 5
I’m so sorry they’re acting this way. I know how hard it is not to write an angry email when they’re being awful. I can’t offer much advice sense I’m going through the same thing with DH’s family…but I really hope everything gets better for you.
Post # 6
@MarryMeTiffany: What?? Your mom…what? And now your cousin is trying to hurt you from pure jealousy, it seems.
I’m shocked at what I read and I’m so sorry!
Do you send the email? No. I also have not spoken to or seen MIL in 7 months. No, not my Mom, but still sort of the same. I wrote her a nasty lengthy reply to her email to me but it still sits in my drafts. Why? Because I know by not sending anything and if more sh!t happens, I know I didn’t instigate it. I know I can say without a doubt “They have a serious problem, not me”.
It must be so hard but if you do want to speak with your mom or cousin, try doing so in person. If they were vindictive enough, they could forward your email to the rest of the family even if you are 100% in the right, which I believe you are!
Post # 7
Emailing her will do nothing but inflame the drama even more. Just ignore her as best as you can
Post # 8
What about writing the e-mail in a Word document? I know that it can really help to get things out on paper. You can then either choose to save it and send it at a later date, or immediately delete it. I would be feeling hurt and frustrated, too :-(.