(Closed) Fighting the urge to write a Mean Email!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I say write the email and get it out of your system, but wait a few days before sending it and see if you really want to. I’m sorry they’re being so mean.

Post # 4
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2608 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Your beef is with your Mom, not your cousin, but family drama like this is seldom solved with emails (nasty or otherwise).  I’d try talking to her in person, just honestly tell her how it hurts you to see her involved in someone else’s wedding and not yours.  Offer a compromise on whatever it was that split the 2 of you up (even if it was 100% her fault) and see if she softens a little.

 

Oh, and if you just want to vent, write your “email” and post it here rather than sending it.  🙂

Post # 5
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2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m so sorry they’re acting this way. I know how hard it is not to write an angry email when they’re being awful. I can’t offer much advice sense I’m going through the same thing with DH’s family…but I really hope everything gets better for you.

Post # 6
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1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@MarryMeTiffany: What?? Your mom…what? And now your cousin is trying to hurt you from pure jealousy, it seems.

I’m shocked at what I read and I’m so sorry!

Do you send the email? No. I also have not spoken to or seen MIL in 7 months. No, not my Mom, but still sort of the same. I wrote her a nasty lengthy reply to her email to me but it still sits in my drafts. Why? Because I know by not sending anything and if more sh!t happens, I know I didn’t instigate it. I know I can say without a doubt “They have a serious problem, not me”.

It must be so hard but if you do want to speak with your mom or cousin, try doing so in person. If they were vindictive enough, they could forward your email to the rest of the family even if you are 100% in the right, which I believe you are!

Post # 7
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Emailing her will do nothing but inflame the drama even more. Just ignore her as best as you can

Post # 8
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1844 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  What about writing the e-mail in a Word document? I know that it can really help to get things out on paper. You can then either choose to save it and send it at a later date, or immediately delete it. I would be feeling hurt and frustrated, too :-(.

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