Lol, WISE OLD BEE here
I presume this comes up because you’ve already told him stuff about your “sexual history”
What you did as a single person and with whom (as long as both of you were legally consenting) is in the past
And consequently NONE OF HIS BUSINESS
What is owed (and only what is owed) between a couple who decide to have an intimate relationship is any MEDICAL type info in regards to their Sexual History*
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* Mr TTR’s & my talk went like this.
ME – “I am a condom girl… as they say NO GLOVE = NO LOVE”
HE – “I have no problem with that”
(he later told me he was happy to hear I was concerned about my sexual health… and inturn that meant his. He doesn’t judge people who have “casual” sexual relationships, he just tends to be more of a relationship person, as am I.)
I also am the one who set the pace. (Lol truth be told men are just happy to have sex more than not). So it was only after we both got totally checked out medically with a clean bill of health, and some time later that our sex life got a bit “spicier”. (Lol, and he was a very happy boy when that happened !!)
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So IMO, if it isn’t REQUIRED MEDICAL SHARING…
Then Everything else is YOUR BUSINESS
There are Bees who will tell you that it pays to be 100% open with the man you love about all your past relationships (kissing, canoodling, sex… Your Number, their Names, What you did, Number of Times, etc)
I am not that Bee
At my age (over 50), I’ve seen that type of info to go on and hurt a relationship.
With either partner having too much time to think about it, dwell on it… let it eat at them.
It is part of JELOUSLY & ENVY. And they are not pretty characteristics in a partner.
I don’t even advocate that a couple should share “their number” as it truly IS NOT RELATIVE TO THE RELATIONSHIP THAT THEY HAVE NOW
NOW is now
The Past is THE PAST
You need to tell your guy that he needs to get over this… and get past it. Not reveal more stuff about you and what you may or may not have done with others in the past.
He needs to realize that ALL THAT doesn’t truly matter TO THE TWO OF YOU
Otherwise it will destroy the two of you. Plain & simple… IT WILL HAPPEN (which is exactly WHY you’ll find Jealously & Envy listed in the 10 Deadly Sins… they will KILL OFF any hope of happiness)
My Best Advice…
Have this talk, then give him some time to adjust.
If he ever brings it up again… remind him of the talk… and how his asking you makes this degrading to your Relationship and the importance that it has now in your life
He does it a second time…
Time to go. Time to move on and find a man who will LOVE YOU for the WHOLE WOMAN that you are NOW IN LIFE
And ya, that is going to include all your experiences… to make you the AMAZING INCREDIBLE PERSON YOU ARE TODAY
Hope this helps,
(( HUGS ))
* I Edited my post a bit, if you read it earlier, you might want to read it again.