Post # 1
me and my fi are a great couple, we have been fighting lately well not lately its sparatic we usually have normal fights and sometimes spraticlaly we have blow outs.
not good blow out they are emotional and unfortunatly some i make bigger that what they r
bees i need ur help
b4 it gets too far and we loose each other
i will give u some examples of these fights
yea i am a women but i think i am more needy and hard on him than i should
he always sees me all the time it had been a while ince he had seen his best friend so he went t c him. we had planned to c eachothher after it was 10 30 i call and say u ready he said im going to stay till 11 30 12 is that ok. i had expressed i was tired i wanted to c him it had been a long day. him and his mom who heis living w temporary had been fighhting he was walking on egg shells w her i had been walking on egg shells w him alll day cuza i could tekll he was acting distant or hlding in something i knew they wee fighting but somehow i got the aftermath of it and hadnt taken it well. i asked if he was mad i was mad cuz he was acting distang i actb bratty when im mad needless to say after a weird day i wanted to jus see him and he was with his friend. of course i am telling u my side his side was just because i am acting weird like u think doesnt mean i do not love u we r adulots tha r in love lie nios changing and we cant handle it where it becomes a fight and i9 havent seeen my friend in weeks i am with u everyday u need to reason w me
i toook it as we were changing i vcant help to feel this way like i am number two
i had also thought i was preg took a cheap test and it was + i told him at the end of all this fighting i didnt want to tell him becuase i wanted to take a real non cheap $ test. he was mad and said i was immmature and selfishg to tell him at the end of thefighting when that was important
we happen to fight when he is with his friends which hardly happens but i say i want him to b w his friends but how to i stop getti9ng mad at him he is a good bf he does never see them but i always fight w him when he is w them its not healthy to b w each other every min like we usually do he tells me ur number 1 and he shows me by being w me every min bt i fight over nothing really at the time i am needy and wnt him and get mad over something but i dont want to how do i stop from doing this
Post # 3
I really don’t understand why you got mad at him when he went to see his friend. It doesn’t sound like he does it very often and everyone needs to spend time with their friends sometimes. I think it was sort of wrong of you to just throw the possible pregnancy thing in his face at the end of a fight. That really wasn’t an appropriate time. I think the two of you need to sit down and talk. Make a schedule for when you will each spend time with your own friends and if he wants to stay there late, so be it.
Post # 4
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I think I’m a bit confused by the situation. You got mad at him for going to see a friend that he hadn’t seen in a while, when you see him daily? Somehow, that doesn’t seem fair to me. You fiance should be able to go out and spend time with his friends without you getting upset at him. Try putting yourself in his shoes – if you hadn’t seen one of your friends in a while and when you finally did he got mad at you for not being with him, how would you feel?
Also, I agree with MissAsB (and your fiance) that it wasn’t right of you to throw the pregnancy thing at him while you were fighting. That’s huge news and it shouldn’t be used to throw him off in a fight.
I definitely think that you guys should sit down and talk and maybe you can explain to him why it bothers you when he spends time with his friends. To be honest, it sounds like there is a deeper problem to me, because I’m not sure I can understand why you’d be upset at him for hanging out with a friend.
Post # 5
well ya i didnt want to throw that in his face at the end i didnt even want to tell him
and i took a test today it was negative. I dont kno what kind of test i took but i didnt want to tell him and shouldnt have done that or fought w him at all. Thats the thing there is no real reason I need to just calm down and stop getting mad impulsively he doesnt deserve this i feel awful for just getting mad all the time like that
ya there is a deeper problem i guess. i jus dont handle stress well.
when i first started dating him he was on top of the world makin jus as much as his mom working at best buy mobile
his hours got cut, didnt pay his car instead payed his rent. Car was under his dads name his dad took it away he strted showing up late to work be3cause of relying on rides. he was fired with no car. we have been struggling alot he recieved unemployment but best buy fought back and they won no unemployment and we owe 4,000 dollars plus th rest o his debt.
he was working at sprint for a month but quit due to commission and working 70 hours a week w very little pay. a year ago he got a misdomener went to get another job was denied this last week because of his bk check. A friend of our who is a boss at mc donalds offered him a job told him if u come tur nw your food handlers card you have a job. he doesnt want it, and feels he can get a job as a server i support him but what about a team we r a team i feel i am the provider when he does have money he supports us and i know he wiol be a good support i know he does not want this job but what about how i feel were trying to save for a car a house and its hard we r staring from the ground up
this was all apart if his past but its catching up with us. He is not a loser and changing everything completly he changed for the better. he is becoing a better man and no matter what i am supporting him whether emotionally or financially but this is so hard to deal with am i holding in anger?
i love him and i know whenhe finished this emt program we will b fine but this is hard and very emotional
Post # 6
I don’t think he should be so dismissive of the job at McDonalds. I don’t have a job right now and I would take anything I can find. I haven’t had any luck finding things. But at least I have my husband to help with the bills. I think that he should be taking that job to pay off his own bills instead of putting it on your shoulders.