fights with fiancé 2 nights before wedding. Help!! Overwhelmed stressed bride

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

tkala:  Sit down together and make a list of what has to be done and prioritize the list.Some of those things will have no negative outcome if they are not done e.g programs

Let him choose which tasks he will take responsibiity for, you do the rest. No fighting, nagging, nitpicking allowed.

Post # 3
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7531 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

tkala:  Take a couple of deep breaths.  PMS is a bear.  Can you use midol or a hot pack on your tummy? Figure out your best game plan for tomorrow.   Make a list based on priorities.  Can you delegate any to someone else besides you and FI?  Delegate what you can.  Do you absolutely need programs?  There’s a method for doing a seating chart with different color paper strips-maybe you can do it with markers if you don’t have different colored paper-anyway, check this out, cause it can make it much easier:  http://www.pinterest.com/search/pins/?q=easy+wedding+seating+chart+  Make it so you can get a good night’s sleep tonight, so this doesn’t carry over to tomorrow.  Tomorrow-Do the important stuff first together if you need to, then he can do the stuff he needs to accomplish. Is there a friend of his, or your dad or somebody that can take him and keep him on track, after you have done what you must do together? Remember why you love him & want to marry him.  No matter what happens, you will be married and hopefully honeymooning in 3 days.  I hope this is somewhat helpful!    

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

tkala:  sometimes you have to just let go. He’s going to have to deal with his decisions and if he’s late or things are messed up, he will have to deal with that. I know that sounds contrary to every time management lesson you know, and it is, but you’re really not helping him right now. So take a breath and walk away from the problem. The most important thing is to be kind and supportive of your partner and he to you. 

Also, midol! It will be okay:-) this is pretty normal. 

Post # 5
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681 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

tkala:  Take a step back and put it all into perspective. What is all this stress for? You are having a party to celebrate the marriage between you two. What good is it if you are arguing over bar items? FOCUS ON WHAT IS IMPORTANT. It’s not the details of your wedding, it’s the marriage.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

This is very similar to my own story – I had a massive fight with DH the night before my wedding too about the same kind of things – I was really stressed about getting everything sorted. We only finished the seating plan the night before the wedding! But we made up and the wedding day went great. There were small details that I didnt have fully sorted but on the day itself it didn’t matter. 

 

Try and figure out what you absolutely need and what you can do without. And try and remember why you’re doing  this in the first place. Everything will cone together on the day, I promise

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’d be infuriated. My FI was incredibly helpful leading up to the wedding to alleviate any stresses I may be feeling.. Our logic was why spend so much money on this thing if we werent going to enjoy every minute of it. 

Ask him what his problem is. Maybe he doesn’t care about the details you’re prompting him to deal with.. You two should be on the same page about your expectations for this wedding.. Without either of you losing your shit.

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