Figured it out: Our multipurpose RSVP card.

posted 3 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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6964 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@EffieTrinket:  Nice! If we end up doing a plated dinner, I have the same concerns, but had planned to do it something like:

We have reserved ___ seats in your honor

Guests:
M_________________ will have _chicken _beef
M_________________ will have _chicken _beef

 

And seriously, I might be writing in the names, cause with 200+ guests on the SHORT list, I don’t want people saying “Oh! 5 seats! Well our kids can’t come but why don’t I invite these people from church who weren’t invited. Nevermind that the bride has thought this through and isn’t inviting ANYONE from church because her father and she have different church friends and she’d feel bad inviting some but not all.”

Stupid RSVPs. I’m engaged 4 days and I’m already stressed out about them.  

Post # 4
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3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@EffieTrinket:  Hi there. Cute card. Love the edges on it.

However, I don’t understand how it addresses #4 and why #4 matters. If you know you need two steaks and a chicken, do you care if Alice or Jim gets one or the other? If you do, the instructions are not clear as to how to make that apparent. By “initial,” do you mean actually writing your initials or indicating the choice? Maybe you need to say “write your name” instead of initial your choice.

I have never had to initial my choice so to me, the concept is foreign and how to put it across to my guests in a succinct fashion is even harder for my brain to comprehend.

I thought the entrée choices were mainly for the caterer’s count. Typically, I’ve been asking by the wait staff what I was having while I was seated for the first course. I did go to one wedding where they marked the back of my place card and I’m not sure how that happened. Perhaps I had attended as a single. Hmmm… magic.

You sure you can’t just add a back page to this RSVP? That would just make this soooooo much easier. Smile

Post # 6
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6964 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@EffieTrinket:  Yeah, exactly. It’s complicated. A large portion of my family seems to have no freaking clue what’s acceptable when it comes to weddings. Famously, a whole section of them never RSVPd to a wedding 8 hours away and then the day before decided it would be “a fun surprise” for them to caravan up, unannounced. Caravan… cause there was like a dozen of them doing this! We’re a big Mexican family, so I could totally see my aunt-by-marriage thinking if her kids couldn’t come it would be “so nice” to invite her sisters “because they love you!”. Um. No. If your kids can’t come, I’m inviting a second friend because seriously only my absolute BEST friend fits right now. 

Post # 8
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9529 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Seems good! We didn’t need people to speccify an entree, but each guest had to RSVP for 3 events (welcome dinner, wedding, morning after breakfast). Plus, we went all anal retentive and actually wrote out each guests name. It’s super busy but it totally worked!

 

Post # 9
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3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@EffieTrinket:  Like I said, I find it confusing. I’ve only ever put a check next to the entrees listed or numbers if we both wanted the same thing. I haven’t been asked to write my name or put down my 3-alpha character initial next to an entree choice.

All I am saying is that I think some of your guests may be confused by the wording.

Post # 10
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10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hi @EffieTrinket:  It looks FANTASTIC !!

And as someone who has organized many events over the years, you are absolutely right about the more traditional custom of coordinating Place Cards to Entrees… so that the Wait Staff knows without asking what each Guest has pre-ordered.

It can be done by colour coded place cards, or by personalizing the cards in some way to match your theme…

ie… Red Star = Beef
Yellow Star = Chicken
Green Star = Vegetarian

The only way this goes off the rails is when Guests forget to Initial… and just put a number or check mark.

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@JenGirl:  Zomg I love this. Super anal retentive for sure but sometimes you just gotta know things! We’re doing the exact.same.events (down to the same days!) and this is mega inspiration. Now to find a way to cram it onto a tiny card…

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