- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
I know this has been discussed a lot before, but I’m curious to hear how some of the rest of you decided..
I would like to have my list of bridesmaids and groomsmen decided this summer – about a year before the wedding. Another thing to add – we’re most likely going to have a Destination Wedding in Ireland. My mom ok’d it. My FI has so many family members with drug and alcohol abuse problems… his parents aren’t so nice, but I don’t dislike his aunts and uncles who have problems. I don’t really want them there, but don’t want to hurt their feelings either. And hey, a destination wedding would be AWESOME.
I have several friends though… most of them are graduating college this coming summer…
My FI wants my brother, and two of his best friends for sure as groomsmen.
I definitely want my FSIL (brother’s fiance) and one of my friends who is older than me who is actually a work colleage. She’s a very Type A personality and I know she would be a huge help. I’m stuck on the other options, though. I have a friend who, my whole life, I have said she would probably be my MOH or at least a bridesmaid. We’ve known each other since we were 3… I don’t know for sure if she’ll be able to afford the trip and she can be really insecure and therefor kind of judgmental, critical and negative. Its nothing I can’t deal with. Most of the time I just brush it off… but she’s been a big part of my life and I really appreciate her.
I also have 2 friends I would consider. One friend will definitely be there.. she’s already making good money and is a musician. She’s a very positive person and is just a breath of fresh air. She’s probably one of the least judgmental people I know. And then I have a friend who is also a pretty positive person, but sometimes irritates certain people… and honestly I don’t know if she’ll have the time or money. She lives about 6hrs away right now at college. And then there is my FSIL (FI’s sister), but she’s a recently single mother and has no time… I’m thinking of finding some other way for her to be involved.
Right now I don’t know who is even going to be able to afford it or want to make the trip – the only ones I’m 99% positive about are my FSIL (brother’s fiance), my work colleague, and my musician friend.
I never actually asked any of them besides my work colleague to be in my wedding party, but I know all of them would probably be disappointed if they weren’t included.
How did you decide between friends when you didn’t want a “ton” of bridesmaids?
Also, what other jobs did you have for these friends?