Post # 1
So my FI was at his dad’s house for christmas and I was at my parents house. I called him christmas day and he put me on speakerphone (grrrrrr). Anyhow. His dad announces that his gift to us for our wedding is that he is going to “Set up and pay for your honeymoon to Europe.”
Great right? Not so fast…
He goes on to explain that a couple of years ago he got involved in an online “get rich quick” scheme and yadda yadda yadda “I can set it up online for you and it will be alot cheaper than going through travelocity or a travel agent!”
AHHH! I hate this. I mean, i want to plan the honeymoon myself, and pay for it myself too. Yes, we’re going to Europe but I’ve never been out of the United States and I want to be able to pick whatever hotel I want… not be strapped down to whatever few hotel options I have through his dad’s timeshare plan.
I’m so wary of this whole idea. WHy can’t he just give us cash towards the honeymoon if that’s what he wants to put it towards? How do I say, “Thanks, but No Thanks.”
Post # 3
I know it would be great to take a honeymoon to your own destination, but think of it this way:
You are getting a close to FREE trip to Europe! You can go ANYWHERE you want, ANY other time! You are getting married.. Marriage is not one day, it’s for the rest of your life. My FI and I are not going on a honeymoon right away; we can not afford it. I would be THRILLED to have a family member pay for my honeymoon.
Post # 4
I know it’s not ideal but at least it gets you to Europe for very little of your own money. Even if they are paying for hotels and airfare, you are still going to have to pay for a lot of little things, like day travel, museum and attraction fees, souvenirs, food, etc. As long as the hotels are decent, I wouldn’t worry too much about how they are booked. How much time do you really want to spend there anyway? And later on, the two of you can go to Europe and do it all your way on your dime.
Post # 5
I guess just say, “Thanks Dad, but we want to go elsewhere..”.