- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Throughout wedding planning, my FMIL hasn’t been involved at all. She told FI & I that they would pay for a rehearsal dinner, but we had to plan it because she “didn’t feel like it.” Fine, whatever. Getting a guest list from them was a huge ordeal and FI ended up getting addresses for his family members from his uncle because she didn’t have them. Now that invitations are out, she wants to add people to the guest list.
We invited his neighbors (friends of his parents) but not there 11yr & 13yr old children. FMIL wants them invited bc they’re friends wih 13yr old FSIL. That’s great, but we didn’t invite any other friends of siblings. When we explained this to her, she said that’s fine bc she’ll just use one of their family’s invites that wasn’t going to be used. (Other FSIL was given a plus one given that she’s 19 but she won’t be using it.) They’re planning on using other FSIL’s plus one to invite one of the kids & FBIL’s plus one to invite the other. Part of me wants to say no they’re not invited, another part wants to say fine and then seat these children with their designated “date,” or just let her do it bc I’m tired of fighting about it.
THEN she emailed FI & told him his cousin had recently started dating someone & would be using a great uncle’s invite to do so. Maybe I was raised differently, but I think it’s incredibly rude to use the invitation of someone who cannot come to bring someone who can. UGH!