- 2 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
Hi bees – I don’t post often but I read lots from the bee and I thought you might be able to help me be not so frustrated.
We are getting married twice, one small civil ceremony in Europe where we live and another slightly bigger in the US, where I am from. We had the civil ceremony on this last Friday and I have a bit of an issue with my father in Law and his photo hobby.
We hired an amazing photographer (she did our Engagement photos, the civil ceremony and she will do the big wedding back in the US too), we Love her style and the photos she takes and are super comfortable with her…and she is costing a small fortune.
At our civil ceremony on Friday, FIL was also photographing, which I didn’t think too much about in the moment, but have since realised was probaly not so great. He was Kind of following her and taking his own copies of her photos and sort of being in the way.
My photographer didn’t say a word about it, but I think it would have been much nicer if he would have just been a guest. To be fair, I don’t like the photos he takes of me, I feel they are very unflattering, so maybe this is why I am annoyed. But, I also Asked to see the photos the next Day and he Said no, then he told my DH that he would like it if we could arrange a projector at the wedding. I had already had the idea to use a mini projector to Show our professional photos (just as a bit of background as most people were not at the civil ceremony) so I don’t know how I can say no now to his slide show (He wants it to be a ‘presentation’ which wasn’t actually what I had in mind with the projector).
To top it all off, my DHs mother (FIL photogs ex-wife) asked that he Share the photos with her. When I said, of course you can have the photos from our professional photog too, she answered, I dont know her photos, I prefer his….arrgggg
I love these people dearly, I don’t want hurt feelings & sometimes there is a cultural thing that gets in the way. I am also not a person to take 10million photos myself, I kind of prefer to experience the moment and have a memory, so maybe I am being unfair? I am not really keen on images that I don’t like pop up all over facebook/family photo books/etc. I would prefer to wait until my professional photos are back and choose the ones I want (getting the engagement photos was such as awesome experience). Can I ask everyone to turn off/put away their cameras this time? Can I say no to his slide show? Should I just suck it up? I am torn, any advice is appreciated!!!