(Closed) FIL vent….AGAIN.

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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5969 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@frustratedbridetobe:  I can relate…I really don’t care for my FIL, at all….he is a pompous, pious, controlling and outdated relic who does not translate well to these “modern” times and ways.

Talking to Mr. 99 about it accomplishes nothing, I can dislike him all I want, the fact is he’s the father of the man I love, that earns him MY love, and expecting my complaints about his father to glean anything other than awkwardness and fights between us, is folly.

So…I decided that the relationship I had with my FIL was a two way street and he was going to get what he gave from me…and what he gave me was disrespect, controlling behavior and snide comments about how I choose to live my life…so that is exactly what he got back from me…and guess what?

He knocked that the hell off and quick.

If your DH wants to re-arrange his weekly schedule for his Dad, that’s his choice, but you shouldn’t have to and are under no obligation to cow-tow to his demands….I would just cease to be a part of this silly commute and refuse to ignore any bad behavior on the part of this man, he may be your FIL, he still has to be a gentleman.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Is your H at least on the same page about not doing the silly commuting business anymore?  I mean, your FIL is a grown man, and if he’s traveling for work they should pay for a car service/taxi/rental car.  If your H wants to keep catering to him, then let him but you don’t have to.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

I really think the answer here is for your FI to get on the same page as you and talk to his dad about this everyweek routine and how hard it is on you guys.  Once a month?  Easy peasy.  Once a week?  No freaking way!

DH needs to discuss this with his dad and dad needs to rent a car at the airport.

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