Filipinas- help me out!

posted 3 years ago in South East Asian
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Hi – I am not Filipino but my FI is. We are incorporating the cord, veil, candle and the sponsors in our wedding.

We have three sets of primary sponsors (you can have as many or as few as you would like). My aunt and uncle and two of his aunts and two of his uncles. All sets are married to one another. I was told that the primary sponsor or (ninongs and ninangs as they call them) basically act as Godparents to my FI and I. They support us through our married life just like a Godparent would with their godchild after being baptized. We are having a church ceremony, so our primary sponsors will be walking down the aisle after our moms and before our bridal party.

As for secondary sponsors – because we have a large bridal party as it is (9 BMs and 8 GMs) we decided that we will pick our secondary sponsors from the bridal party. I was told by my FI brother who is his best man that we shouldn’t pick my MOH or the best man as they were already given special roles. If we weren’t going to pick from the bridal party we would have picked from family or friends. It is who you and your FI want up there with you performing these special traditions 🙂

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@MexiPino:  That is exactly what the primary sponsors are there for 🙂 If you don’t do the veil and cord – maybe ask them to be readers (if you are doing that). Did you FI or his mom talk about possibly wearing a barong? I know my FI wanted all of the groomsmen and himself to wear one but his mother actually talked him out of it, so now they are wearing suits.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@MexiPino:  I was all for him to wear one as well. Even found all the sites but then his mother kept pushing the “americano” (that is what she calls suits) and that is what we are having. He is okay because we are doing all of the other traditions – including the coin and bible, so we also have a coin bearer and a ring bearer. I have personally never witnessed a Filipino wedding ceremony. I saw a couple on youtube, so I am hoping everything goes smoothly lol.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@MexiPino:  Even if it doesn’t go the way other Filipino weddings went – I am still going to think it is awesome because it is mine lol.

We decided to include little blurbs in our wedding programs, so that my family can follow along. But the one issue I am having and his family can’t seem to answer this (lol which is weird bc 1. they are Filipino and 2. They been to a bunch of weddings) when during the ceremony do we do all of the traditions. I had to piece it together from a whole bunch of different sites I found, lol. Our priest has never done one but he has been to some, so it will all be brand new for all of us.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I guess if they technically weren’t “doing” anything during it, it doesn’t matter if they are part of the bridal party or not. 

+1

@MexiPino: Hi there.. you were super right on the statement above! Just wanted to share with you that we had a very large bridal party composed of family and friends that we considered part of our journey as a couple. We had 3 pairs of ninongs&ninangs and as what  @Brokensound21 said, they are like Godparents.

 

You mentioned that you have been to Filipino weddings, so I am sure you are already aware of the long processional.. lol.. how many bridesmaids are you having? flower girls?? Good luck with the wedding, I’m sure it will be awesome! 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Scottish Rite Cathedral (New Castle, PA)

@Brokensound21:  I agree with everyone saying the sponsors are just like Godparents! We decided not to have sponsors and are just having our BM and GM do our veil and cord ceremonies.  

As for when to do things during the ceremony, I’ve always seen the ceremonies right after the vows/exchange of rings, followed by prayer (if you’re Catholic, typically the Lord’s prayer), then removal of the ceremony items, declaration of marriage and then the recessional. So basically they’re the last things you do before being declared Mr. and Mrs. Does that make sense? 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@smg5281:  </pYes that does make sense, it actually fits the time line of a few examples I found online 🙂

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Hmm, not sure what happened to my other message but it said : Yes that does make sense, it actually fits the time line of a few examples I found online 🙂

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

primary sponsors are, as mentioned above, like godparents.  they really don’t “do” anything in the ceremony proper though.  oh, but they do sign the marriage documents as well.  they are also traditionally “expected” to give “better” gifts than most.  sorry if that sounds too materialistic.  but when i was growing up, being a ninong or ninang was a big thing, and the higher your name is in the list of sponsors, the more of a big shot you are.   they’re usually older people, and again, in the filipino setting- are more often than not, friends of either of the couple’s parents.  our pairs were not necessarily married to each other.  in fact, i think, there’s a superstition to not pair married couples together, but i’m not sure now. 

 now the secondary sponsors are in on the action. they handle the candles, veil, and cord.  the veil and the cord sponsors, for one, get to go to the couple’s place of honor twice.  you can certainly pair off the married wives (who are not bridesmaids)  of your groomsmen and make them primary sponsors.  however, the procession follows a specific order.  with whom would the groomsmen walk in with- their primary sponsor wives or their “partner” bridesmaids.

but of course, it’s your wedding, and you are the boss and can do anything.  good luck with your planning!

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