Fi and I are both half Filipino and half caucasion. I would love to incorporate some Filipino traditions but with us having a real casual wedding and either of us being real religious (let alone catholic) I'm not sure how much, if any, we'll do.
I'm full Filipino, and Fi is Methodist, and my parents want a full out Filipino wedding. So, we're trying to keep everyone comfortable by using songs in the ceremony that are used by both religions. And not doing the offering of flowers to Mary, to the objections of my parents.
Speaking of parents, did yours tell you certain Filipino superstitions? Like...
1. Not trying your dress on before the wedding. I did, and my mom was berated by her sisters. Good thing I did though, since it needed alterations!
2. Closed toed shoes for the ceremony and putting coins in your shoes?
wow-- i didnt know about the not trying on dress... like that's really gonna happen! haha!
aside from the cord, veil, candle - we're not really incorporating any other "filipino" deets...
def NOT doing the money dance (ick!) or the closed-toe shoes with coins or having 8-10 sets of godparents... i'm only choosing 2 or 3 sets of godparents, the ones i'm closest to...
i'm catholic, as most filipinos are; my fh is lutheran and not filipino - he's black... not sure if we're doin the "jumping the broom" as in the african-american weddings...
There are a few 'versions' of the money dance out there...
1. MOH and BM collect money in baskets so guests 'pay' to dance with the bride or groom
2. Guests pin money onto your dress and your husbands (!) tux or barong or whatever he is decked out in
3. You can make a faux sash out of the money and guests fold the bills into rings and attatch it to the sash.
4. 'Curacha' style where someone 'captures' the bride or groom (w/ a napkin or just holds them, puts them in a chair etc.) and people pay for that person to release them.
On another board a good idea (if you have time!) is to put out little pin cushions on each table with a note explaining the money dance to individuals who do not know. Its also a Southern Tradition called the 'apron dance'
oh i feel super-filipino because we're doing the whole shabang with the candle, cord, veil thing, AND the money dance. FI and i are both filipino so it's a complete given. my mom told me about not trying on the wedding dress too, but that's not happening.
I'm caucasian but my fiance is Filipino and incorporating lots of Filipino traditions: money dance, cord/coin/veil, sponsors, and a Filipino dessert buffet served after the wedding cake. Filipino culture is so warm and celebratory and I feel lucky to be able to share in those traditions.
Both of us are Filipino (I was born there, he was born here). I was thinking of having him and the groomsmen wear barongs at the reception but we decided against it since it was too much of a hassle to get everyone's size and to get them ordered from the Philippines. We've opted not to do the money dance, but will be doing the cord/coin/veil.
Hi, I'm full and my fiance is caucasion. We're only doing the unity candle. Do any of you have suggestions for make-up artists in the Los Angeles area? Also, besides TFC magazines, where else do you look for hair and make-up inspirational pics?
i'm filipino too and my FI is not but we're doing the traditional veil, cord, candle and having sponsors too! so we had to explain what sponsors were to his side and they were all honored. we told them sponsors are more like "godparents" and we chose people that we find have been there for us and go to for advice. we're doing the money dance and a lot of different cultures do it, it's nothing new.
originially, i wanted my mom and dad to wear traditional filipino outfits like the barong tagalog and mistisa (can't spell) dress but that didn't happen.
since i'm catholic and he's christian i wanted to honor both by having two officiants at the wedding. the only thing we're not doing is the full mass with with the host.
for the reception, we're having lumpia and turon for the appetizers. then for dancing, i'm sure if we put on a cha-cha song folks will get up and do the "filipino cha-cha" or do line dancing! LOL
like snmcdowell, I'm caucasian and my fiance is filipino. We're doing the cord, veil and unity candle. We aren't having sponsors, though. I would have liked to, but he really didn't want to. FMIL wasn't too happy about that. :P We're doing what we can to appease both my and his sides of the family.
hello! i'm filipina and my fiance is filipino/puerto rican. we're planning to do the veil/cord/coin/candle ceremonies. as for the money dance... we won't be doing the money thing, but since it's such a nice way for us to spend a little one on one time with some of the guests, we may be doing a little twist on the tradition...
i was never one of those little girls who always dreamt about her wedding day, but the one thing i thought i would definitely want was to give those little capiz shell boxes filled with candy as wedding favors , just like every other filipino wedding i'd ever been to. but now that i'm actually planning my wedding, it's not likely that we will.. only because we have some other ideas for favors.
Mestiza here (half caucasion). My FH is full on caucasion, but he and the GM's are wearing barongs. We're having a lakeside wedding on the beach and it just felt right... They look darn good in em too!
Pinay here! Getting married in ... a month and 7 days (July 12)!
My family's side is very Filipino, but his is more Americanized.
We are doing the regular Filipino Ceremony traditions. We did not go Filipino style in terms of bridal party wear. And yes, we are doing the money dance though I am not fond of doing it due to the time it takes. We're doing it because I know as a guest, I enjoy the money dance..a chance to say hello to the bride/groom and get a personal photo with them. ;D
i am filipino..proud to say born and raised in the philippines but move here 5 years.My FI is caucasian and a redhead too.We are having a traditional filipino wedding without the money dance and 8-10 sets of godparents (just 2 sets).
The only filipino tradition that i am having a hard time dealing with the groom should not see the bride before the wedding.We are getting married in winter here in colorado and i think it will be better if we do our pictorials before the sun sets.
Filipina here too! My FI is from Spain, and the only traditions we're doing are the cord, veil, and coins and in the Catholic church. Is anyone having problems with their Filipino guests adding more people on your returned RSVPs? I've had to be firm and say NO to uninvited guests but they seemed slightly offended. Sucks
Great thread! I wanted to see if anyone was going to incorporate Filipino food into their reception menu? I would love to, but am having trouble finding a caterer who has experience with Filipino food in Chicago.
I was thinking of lumpiang shanghai and lechon as possible options. My fiance has Polish heritage so we were also thinking kielbasa and pierogi. I am not sure how easy it will be to customize a menu like this.
I'm sure you guys are out there. Talk about your wedding planning here!
--Jehnel
posted by owlsrock 6 posts 6 months agohaha... cool. first time to look at the cultural boards and i see this post. there's gotta be more of us out there.
posted by irmango 17 posts 6 months agoFi and I are both half Filipino and half caucasion. I would love to incorporate some Filipino traditions but with us having a real casual wedding and either of us being real religious (let alone catholic) I'm not sure how much, if any, we'll do.
posted by nejireta 88 posts 6 months agoHi All!
I'm full Filipino, and Fi is Methodist, and my parents want a full out Filipino wedding. So, we're trying to keep everyone comfortable by using songs in the ceremony that are used by both religions. And not doing the offering of flowers to Mary, to the objections of my parents.
Speaking of parents, did yours tell you certain Filipino superstitions? Like...
1. Not trying your dress on before the wedding. I did, and my mom was berated by her sisters. Good thing I did though, since it needed alterations!
2. Closed toed shoes for the ceremony and putting coins in your shoes?
posted by kateri 11 posts 6 months agoHi Pinay Bees! I'm full filipino and fiance is caucasian. Kateri - my dad said it was unlucky to wear my dress before the wedding too. hehe
posted by reilabird 159 posts 6 months agowow-- i didnt know about the not trying on dress... like that's really gonna happen! haha!
aside from the cord, veil, candle - we're not really incorporating any other "filipino" deets...
def NOT doing the money dance (ick!) or the closed-toe shoes with coins or having 8-10 sets of godparents... i'm only choosing 2 or 3 sets of godparents, the ones i'm closest to...
i'm catholic, as most filipinos are; my fh is lutheran and not filipino - he's black... not sure if we're doin the "jumping the broom" as in the african-american weddings...
posted by Anti-Zilla 385 posts 6 months agoI totally tried on my dress a million times before the wedding because of alterations. I hope it's really not bad luck!
I am getting married tomorrow, but I'm still not sure what the money dance is... kind of scary, but my grandfather's insisting on it. What is it???!
posted by NiftyBa 95 posts 6 months agoCONGRATS NiftyBa!
There are a few 'versions' of the money dance out there...
1. MOH and BM collect money in baskets so guests 'pay' to dance with the bride or groom
2. Guests pin money onto your dress and your husbands (!) tux or barong or whatever he is decked out in
3. You can make a faux sash out of the money and guests fold the bills into rings and attatch it to the sash.
4. 'Curacha' style where someone 'captures' the bride or groom (w/ a napkin or just holds them, puts them in a chair etc.) and people pay for that person to release them.
On another board a good idea (if you have time!) is to put out little pin cushions on each table with a note explaining the money dance to individuals who do not know. Its also a Southern Tradition called the 'apron dance'
Hope that helped!
posted by kateri 11 posts 6 months agooh i feel super-filipino because we're doing the whole shabang with the candle, cord, veil thing, AND the money dance. FI and i are both filipino so it's a complete given. my mom told me about not trying on the wedding dress too, but that's not happening.
posted by irmango 17 posts 6 months agoI'm caucasian but my fiance is Filipino and incorporating lots of Filipino traditions: money dance, cord/coin/veil, sponsors, and a Filipino dessert buffet served after the wedding cake. Filipino culture is so warm and celebratory and I feel lucky to be able to share in those traditions.
posted by snmcdowell 467 posts 6 months agoBoth of us are Filipino (I was born there, he was born here). I was thinking of having him and the groomsmen wear barongs at the reception but we decided against it since it was too much of a hassle to get everyone's size and to get them ordered from the Philippines. We've opted not to do the money dance, but will be doing the cord/coin/veil.
posted by layatp 4 posts 6 months agoHi, I'm full and my fiance is caucasion. We're only doing the unity candle. Do any of you have suggestions for make-up artists in the Los Angeles area? Also, besides TFC magazines, where else do you look for hair and make-up inspirational pics?
posted by 626girl 3 posts 6 months agoi'm filipino too and my FI is not but we're doing the traditional veil, cord, candle and having sponsors too! so we had to explain what sponsors were to his side and they were all honored. we told them sponsors are more like "godparents" and we chose people that we find have been there for us and go to for advice. we're doing the money dance and a lot of different cultures do it, it's nothing new.
originially, i wanted my mom and dad to wear traditional filipino outfits like the barong tagalog and mistisa (can't spell) dress but that didn't happen.
since i'm catholic and he's christian i wanted to honor both by having two officiants at the wedding. the only thing we're not doing is the full mass with with the host.
for the reception, we're having lumpia and turon for the appetizers. then for dancing, i'm sure if we put on a cha-cha song folks will get up and do the "filipino cha-cha" or do line dancing! LOL
posted by ecochicbride 50 posts 6 months agolike snmcdowell, I'm caucasian and my fiance is filipino. We're doing the cord, veil and unity candle. We aren't having sponsors, though. I would have liked to, but he really didn't want to. FMIL wasn't too happy about that. :P We're doing what we can to appease both my and his sides of the family.
posted by bethgraced 105 posts 6 months agohello! i'm filipina and my fiance is filipino/puerto rican. we're planning to do the veil/cord/coin/candle ceremonies. as for the money dance... we won't be doing the money thing, but since it's such a nice way for us to spend a little one on one time with some of the guests, we may be doing a little twist on the tradition...
i was never one of those little girls who always dreamt about her wedding day, but the one thing i thought i would definitely want was to give those little capiz shell boxes filled with candy as wedding favors
, just like every other filipino wedding i'd ever been to. but now that i'm actually planning my wedding, it's not likely that we will.. only because we have some other ideas for favors.
are any of you giving filipino themed favors?
posted by sistaj710 1 posts 6 months agoMestiza here (half caucasion). My FH is full on caucasion, but he and the GM's are wearing barongs. We're having a lakeside wedding on the beach and it just felt right... They look darn good in em too!
posted by JillBeee 21 posts 5 months agoPinay here! Getting married in ... a month and 7 days (July 12)!
My family's side is very Filipino, but his is more Americanized.
We are doing the regular Filipino Ceremony traditions. We did not go Filipino style in terms of bridal party wear. And yes, we are doing the money dance though I am not fond of doing it due to the time it takes. We're doing it because I know as a guest, I enjoy the money dance..a chance to say hello to the bride/groom and get a personal photo with them. ;D
posted by MsApes 113 posts 5 months agoi am filipino..proud to say born and raised in the philippines but move here 5 years.My FI is caucasian and a redhead too.We are having a traditional filipino wedding without the money dance and 8-10 sets of godparents (just 2 sets).
The only filipino tradition that i am having a hard time dealing with the groom should not see the bride before the wedding.We are getting married in winter here in colorado and i think it will be better if we do our pictorials before the sun sets.
i am amazed there is a lot of filipina bees!
posted by justinsgirl 18 posts 5 months agoFilipina here too! My FI is from Spain, and the only traditions we're doing are the cord, veil, and coins and in the Catholic church. Is anyone having problems with their Filipino guests adding more people on your returned RSVPs? I've had to be firm and say NO to uninvited guests but they seemed slightly offended. Sucks
posted by silverstar 32 posts 5 months agoHi Everyone!
Great thread! I wanted to see if anyone was going to incorporate Filipino food into their reception menu? I would love to, but am having trouble finding a caterer who has experience with Filipino food in Chicago.
I was thinking of lumpiang shanghai and lechon as possible options. My fiance has Polish heritage so we were also thinking kielbasa and pierogi. I am not sure how easy it will be to customize a menu like this.
Any thoughts?
posted by barkley75 1 posts 4 months ago