- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
A little bit of background:
FI and I are planning a beautiful wedding in Mexico next May. FI’s parents are divorced. His father is retired and remarried to an awful woman. FMIL cannot afford to travel. My parents have generously offered to pay for FMIL’s flight and hotel, so that she can be part of the wedding. This was the only way to get FI to agree to a DW.
FI’s parents have been annoyed about our plans to have a DW since the beginning. They think we should get married in our hometown and invite every single person they know, even though they haven’t offered one dime to help pay for this big fancy wedding THEY want. My parents are paying for the whole DW and are so excited about it. We are a very laid-back, adventurous, and travel loving bunch. So a DW was just perfect for us.
Well the venue has been booked, our house has been rented, and save the dates are about to go out. So now I have the two following issues:
1. FMIL absolutely hates FFIL’s wife. He remarried many years after they divorced, so it’s not like he cheated on her with this woman. Well FMIL told FFIL that his wife is NOT welcome at our wedding. “Who does that woman think she is, coming to MY son’s wedding?!” My FI doesn’t really want her there either, but he understands that if we don’t invite her, his father will probably not come to our wedding at all.
2. FI and I need to be in Mexico several days before the wedding. We’re flying there on a Tuesday to get blood work done, meet with the event planner, etc. The wedding is taking place on Saturday. Also, we will be staying at a rental house with my family during that whole week. Our plan was for FMIL to fly down on Thursday before the wedding, and fly home on Monday (remember: my parents are paying for her travel). Easy peesy. No. Now she wants to fly with us on Tuesday, stay in our house, and stay in Mexico until we leave. Mind you, once the wedding is over, FI and I will be taking off for our honeymoon.
I have reached the point that I am incredibly annoyed now. My parents do not want FMIL staying in our house (and there’s no room for her anyways). I certainly do not want to spend every single day in Mexico dragging her along everywhere we go. And now she’s pissed because (gasp!) my parents have the audacity to put her up in a (nice) hotel instead of letting her stay in our house (I swear, there is really no room!).
I don’t know what to do. FMIL is making me crazy. I already convinced her that she doesn’t need two dresses for the wedding (oh yes, she thought she should get a ceremony dress and a reception dress because, you know, this is HER wedding). Next thing you know, she’s going to ask to come on my honeymoon! GRRR.
I am so freaking annoyed right now. Please, someone, tell me everything is going to be alright. Feel free to share your MIL horror stories. I am completely lost.