(Closed) FILs highjacked my rehearsal bbq!

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

 I would tell them how you feel. Hopefully they would understand.   does your fi know how you feel.  I understand about FILs getting carried away, mine went a little nuts. ( and our wedding isn’t till 12) I was nice and honest with them and they backed off.

Post # 4
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Newbee

I had the same exact problem.  Tears work.  It was totally out of control and the complete opposite of what we wanted, and I just lost it.  So they cancelled it.  But then I felt bad.  So our solution ultimately was have your fancy-schmancy party, just not for the rehearsal dinner.  We’re having the small, casual, rehearsal dinner we want, and the night before, FILs are throwing the big party they want.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We had the same problem!!! FMIL booked this crazy nice hotel that was just sooooo opposite of the casual thai restaurant I wanted. I finally talked to her about it and she completely understood and now we’re having it at a local yacht club that’s very relaxed and just having a bbq. Whew. I think being honest and just saying “This is fancier than our wedding and we’re really not comfortable with it” goes a looooong way.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

good for you for taking this so well hoosierbee, I don’t think I would be as nice! Did you specifically say you were worried about the grandness of the venue they chose? That you were hoping for something a little more down to earth? If you can let it just roll off your shoulder though then go for it, why stress yourself right?

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