Post # 1
I’ve become very frustrated lately with my finace. We both work in the restaurant industry and don’t have normal days off. I have sundays/mondays off and he has fridays/saturdays off. We both use to have friday nights off together but now he spends his friday nights playing in a hockey league. So now we don’t have “US” time and I feel like it is really affecting our relationship. We just seem to say good morning and good night to each other and that’s it. I’ve tried to get him to change his days off but no luck. I cannot get fridays and sat. off because it’s my busiest days of the week. So what do I do? How do I make this work? I really don’t want to take away his hockey league. He really loves it and it makes him so happy, but I’m feeling like we are drifting apart from each other. I feel like he really doesn’t see it as a problem. I feel that if this continues then we might have a problem in the future.
Post # 3
Does it have to be friday? How about a wednesday or a Thursday? Your weeks don’t fall like the rest of the population’s do so why does it have to be a friday night?
Yes you’ll both have work the next day (but you would still be in a similar boat if you got your way with the friday night), but you can take advantage of a few hours to spend time together (depending when your shifts finish).
Post # 4
I agree that a weekday night might work better. Voice your feelings to your FI in a non confrontational way, and hopefully he will agree and help you pick an “us only” night
Post # 5
I know couples who never see each other. For whatever reason, they have to work off hours and conflicting schedules. They get through it and you will too.
I agree with those who say try to make a regular date night. But beware of falling into a routine.
Post # 6
I’ve tried to get him to take a weekday off. But no luck, He has hockey and band practice (his other job)……and I get maybe a few hours with him a week. It sucks because we are trying to buy a house right now and I need him to come with me. I just wanted 1 day a week with him and I’m not sure if it will ever happen.